There is a myth, within our own churches and homeschooling circles, It spans denominations and generations. It has the potential to be more destructive than feminism as it threatens to destroy from the inside out, and it goes something like this:

“A girl should be raised to be a Christian. A girl should not be raised to be a homemaker.”

If you’re in shock, you’re not alone. My heart broke the night I realized what young, Christian, homeschooled ladies are planning for their daughters to be.

The prevalent thoughts behind this are that any girl can be just a homemaker, but that every girl needs to know how to follow God, be kind, caring, make good decisions, work well, and be dilligent. I agree with the second half of that sentence. However, this holds true for sons just as it does for daughters. Our children in general need to be raised with these qualities.

Another complication is that the quote above assumes the two are mutually exclusive.

*When we present perpetual singleness as a “gift” though the LORD never said such a thing, we distort His truths and cause His people to err. When we say that we should only raise our daughters to be Christian young ladies, and willfully deny that we are to teach them how to care for a family we grieve the Holy spririt by not speaking truth.

“Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another…. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God…”

Ephesians 4:25, 30

The truth is:

• God made women for men (1 Corinthians 11:9)

• Women were created as helpmeets for husbands (Genesis 2:18)

• The older women are to teach the younger to be keepers at home (Titus 2:5)

• All women will need homemaking skills, even the unmarried working women.

Biblical homemaking is priority in the life of a woman. The deception surrounding the “I’m raising my daughter as a Christian, homemaker or not she will always be fine, useful woman” ideology is staggering and is akin to proclaiming that we need only raise our sons as good Christian men, declaring, “Any guy can provide for a family, all boys need to learn how to be good Christian men. Raising my son to be a provider may not be the right path for him.”

God’s perfect plan is for the women to be a helpmeet to her husband, a keeper of the home. We must instill this Biblical truth in our daughters.

*In 1 Corinthians 7, Paul simply gives the church advice regarding singleness vs. marriage. I’ve found nothing in Scripture to insinuate we are “assigned” singleness the same way that we are assigned spiritual gifts.