A Warning for Our Modern Times

by Emily on May 19, 2017 in Faithfulness, Home Culture, Industry, Obedience, Purpose, Responsibility, Standing Firm

 
Dear Mothers and Housewives,

I was discussing social media with my dear husband recently.  While my husband only has one social media account for work, I have several that I’ve set up over the years.  I am very grateful for a husband who thinks carefully about how his time is spent and puts the Lord before all other things.  I love my husband very much and have sometimes bragged about him on this very platform I am warning against today!  But that is because I see we have a problem.

While social media may have some benefits, such as keeping in touch with people far away, it can be very detrimental, and I think we need to be very careful with it, if not avoid it altogether.

If we have an honest discussion on the topic, most women will admit (again, if they’re being honest), that social media such as Facebook, is highly addicting.  We will also admit that we spend way too much time there, looking at what everyone else is doing, and most likely seeing how many likes and comments we will get on our own posts.  This sharing things with everybody is quite a new concept, as in times past, mothers before us might have had a telephone conversation with one person at a time, or they would have written a letter to keep in touch, again, with one person at a time, or perhaps a family.  Having large groups of people purposely drawn into our personal lives is quite a new thing–it’s almost like having a party every day that we post something for so many people to see, or as we scroll and click to see what everyone else is up to.  I’m sure someone has done studies by now to find this is detrimental to people as a whole.  We don’t interact as humans as we once did.  We are missing something.  We are replacing it with getting attention and what really seems to me as becoming busybodies while remaining in our own homes.

 
More importantly as homemakers, what happens when we spend so much time on Facebook or other social media?  Are we keeping our houses neat and clean?  Are we cooking nice meals for our families?  Are we keeping on top of organization?  Are we playing with and talking to our children?  Are we helping others in need?  Or do we know more about what happened with so-and-so on Facebook than what happened in our own home today?  I am sadly not making this up–this is reality.

What about our spiritual lives?  Do we spend real, quiet time with the Lord?  Really getting deep into His Word and seeing what He wants to teach us this day, and not what would be so neat for a post on Facebook or Twitter or Instagram?  This is what really saddens me–Christians in these times spend so much time on Facebook (I say Facebook, because I think it’s the biggest and most popular social media time-sucker)–and this time is gone, lost forever.  This time, in ages past, would have been spent in prayer, and in reading God’s Word.  But we are not doing it.  We are too busy updating the masses with what is going on in our lives–especially when we go to social media to post something, instead of going to the Lord in prayer.

Please understand, I know that not all is bad about social media, but we really must be careful with how we spend our time, and why we are doing it.  There are so many important things for us mothers to do that we must make sure to do those important and necessary things.  Facebook can wait.  Facebook is not needed.  People can still communicate through phone calls, letters, and emails.  How much better would it be to have the attention of our children and husbands than the attention of our Facebook friends (though we may have some dear ones and of course, we can still keep in touch in other ways)?  How much better would it be if the Lord had our attention instead of social media?

 
So, who would like to join me in being less involved in social media and more involved in our own homes?  More involved with our precious children, and more involved with our dear husbands?  How about more involved with our Savior?  This is my plan, for the good of our family, our church, and our country.  The benefits of spending more time focused on our families and the Lord are far reaching.

Emily

Emily and her wonderful husband are raising several future homemakers and one little man. Emily enjoys homemaking, homeschooling, arts & crafts, cross-stitching, reading, sewing, and playing piano, just to name a few. She is interested in healing the body through the food God has given us, along with other God-given means such as herbs and essential oils. You can find her blogging about all things homemaking at Blessed Homemaking. Emily also has a God-given gift for art and sometimes posts her creations at Emily's Fine Art.

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Michelle May 19, 2017

Thank you for this! I agree with you completely. I don’t have Facebook but I do have a blog and Instagram. Although I like being able to connect with others online, I sincerely wish we still lived in a culture where we lived close to our loved ones and women would visit with each other, do chores together, etc. I guess that’s why I read so much Amish fiction! I definitely think we’ve lost more than we’ve gained when it comes to technology, especially the internet.

Emily May 19, 2017

I am glad you see the danger, Michelle. I think women visiting each other in real life (on occasion, not every day), is a wonderful thing that is not done enough. It would be great if we could pull away from technology quite a bit and focus on what is going on around us.

Amy May 19, 2017

Phenomenal post! I’ve never had any social media except Facebook (and even then had 4 friends 🙂 ) Well, I even deleted that a few days ago. It does get addicting and leads you on miscellaneous rabbit trails. There are 4 sites/blogs that I check each day now. That’s it. No other computer. Well..unless I need to fill out forms or something. I just made this same vow as you–less computer time. It’s not social media, but even computer in general. It’s an enormous time sucker. No more searching for recipes (I have great cook books that desperately needed used and my daughters enjoy flipping through them so much more than online anyway), no searching homeschooling info (I mean..It’s been 8 years! I think I’m doing good now!), no checking the weather 15 times a day….you get the point. Less computer more life!! Thanks for the inspiration! 🙂

Emily May 19, 2017

That’s very true that the computer in general is a huge time-sucker. Good for you in realizing the need for discipline in this area.

Jenny May 19, 2017

I just started using FB almost a year ago after looking at all the sharing my extended family far away was doing. I sent emails and cards, etc., but rarely had any return contact. I wanted to be a part of my family’s day to day and it seemed like FB was the only way. It has truly been a blessing to me to “chat” with my family and share our far away life with them on a regular basis. I will say, though, that it takes a tremendous amount of self control to check only once a day. If I do that, I’m fine, but there have been times when it has been more frequent, and very quickly, things fall apart in my housekeeping and child rearing. A few times of that has been enough to teach me to be a big girl and move on with my “real life” after a check in once in the morning or afternoon.

Emily May 20, 2017

How very sad that you rarely had any return communication. This is so telling of how bad things have gotten in our society. It’s good that you are using self control in this area. We really must be vigilant and remember our time is not our own.

Jessica May 19, 2017

This is a great post. I think most people would agree that social media is addicting, and they spend too much time there. Although, it may be hard for them to admit. I set a goal almost three months ago to only check social media 10 min at a time 3 times a day. I’ve hit the goal about 50% of the time. I’d like to cut it back even further…maybe by following fewer people. Does it really matter what your old friend from high school is doing, if you no longer talk to them? Thanks for tackling such a tough topic.

Emily May 20, 2017

You’re very welcome, Jessica. You bring up a good point–it doesn’t really matter what they are doing. That’s good you’re setting those types of goals.

Jenny May 22, 2017

Jessica, not following people has really helped me in managing my FB time. I just go look at New Posts, which you can find listed if you click on your Friends page, if that makes any sense. These are posts my friends actually make, not just what they’ve liked or reacted to. When I followed people as a newcomer to FB, the feed filled up so quickly, and I couldn’t keep up with everyone’s likes, etc. It was overwhelming! I will add, though, that if some of your friends aren’t regular posters, you may just have to check their page individually. I have a few friends who don’t post frequently, so they weren’t showing up in New Posts. I check in on those friends on a certain day of the week.

Kelly May 19, 2017

Emily you are so right about our use of social media. It can over take our days
and then we are not being keeper at home as we should. Excellent words dear
sister….Love Kelly

Emily May 20, 2017

Thank you, sweet sister.

ANA May 20, 2017

EMILY: ESTOY DE ACUERDO CON LOS COMENTARIOS DE MIS HERMANAS EN CRISTO. REALMENTE LAS REDES SOCIALES PUEDEN SER MUY ADICTIVAS, YO VEO EN MIS HIJOS EL TIEMPO QUE ESTAN Y LES HAGO VER CUANTO TIEMPO LE DEDICAN, ES NUESTRO DEBESR CORREGIR ESTA SITUACION, SI BIEN ES UTIL LA USAN PARA SACAR INFORMACION PARA LA ESCUELA, A VECES SE ENTRETIENEN CON LOS JUEGUITOS ECT, EL ESTAR DEMASIADO TIEMPO FRENTE A LA COMPUTADORA NOS AISLA DE LOS QUE NOS RODEAN Y NOS ALEJAN DE NUESTROS DEBERES COTIDIANOS. PERSONALMENTE NO ESTOY MUCHO SENTADA FRENTE A LA PANTALLA, YA QUE TENGO UNA GRAN FAMILIA: PAPA, YO Y 7 HIJOS DE DIFERENTES EDADES ,4 NIÑOS CON NECESIDADES ESPECIALES, ME LLEVA MUCHO TIEMPO, PREFIERO TEJER, BORDAR, COSER, HACER ADORNOS PARA MI HOGAR ETC., Y SOBRETODO ESTAR EN CONTACTO CON DIOS, LEYENDO SU PALABRA. BENDICIONES DESDE MI HERMOSO PAIS, ARGENTINA.

Emily May 20, 2017

Good to hear from you again, ANA. It’s good that you don’t spend much time in front of the screen. How much better is it for all of us to be involved with our dear families and homes and of course, the Lord of Heaven and earth.

laura May 20, 2017

Thank-you for this reminder. I have my addiction to “facebook”….

It has been somewhat of an inspiration to me as I can connect with people from other countries and with Christians of other areas who have dealt with various forms of persecution, but it has torn away the family and friends who only seem to believe I “preach” bible memes….which I do love to do, but it seems to scare their NEED for the gospel away.

Emily May 20, 2017

I’ve found that people can often be offended on Facebook. Perhaps it is best to share the Gospel in person and remember, it is the Lord who changes hearts.

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