I am the Older Woman Now

by Sandra on January 28, 2016 in Inspiration in Child Rearing, Legacy

Just hours after she entered the world, I quickly dashed over to get a glimpse of her beauty. My eyes locked upon her face. I couldn’t help but to stare at her. Her plump cheeks prompted me to pull her just a little closer in hopes of feeling her cheek next to mine. As her eyes slowly opened and quickly closed, I wondered how she would view the world as she grows. For a brief moment I pondered the thought of how the world would view her, since she was born into a family with multiple children.


I am the older woman now. My days of sitting in the wooden rocking chair nursing a baby are behind me. I spend my days homeschooling our youngest daughter who is a Senior in high school. Where has time gone? For me, the longing to have more children will always be there. Just more one…

Excitement to hear the announcement of another human being knitted in a young woman’s womb can be diminished as I look upon the faces of some of my peers. The way their faces crinkle as if they just sucked on a piece of sour lemon. Their eyes narrow as they roll them while whispering the word, “again”. The women, dignified; they stand tall and proud of their accomplishment of knowing when to stop having children because there’s more to life. So they say…

I am the older woman now. I want to apologize to every woman who has been hurt by words spoken by my peers. You see, we were taught to limit the number of children we have because we needed to make a name for ourselves. We should be known by our great achievements and not by being so-and-so’s mom. Although some of my peers will not admit it, there are moments when we are jealous of you. You are doing the things we wanted to do. We wanted to be a mom with multiple children. We wanted to boldly proclaim that motherhood is a ministry and that we rest in God’s word knowing that our seed would never beg for bread.

Children are a blessing. The hard work of training children are outweighed by all the joy they bring to our lives. That moment when they take their first step with their arms stretched out toward you are priceless. The family picture they draw on a piece of paper depicting you wearing a size two makes you smile. That’s how they see you mom. They do not see you the same way you see yourself when you look into a mirror. They confirm it by telling you how pretty you are. Yes you; even on bad hair days, your children think you are beautiful. Why, because you are their mother.

I am the older woman now. I want you to know that I love watching you engaging with your children. My heart rejoices when you announce another pregnancy. It is not my job to encourage you to limit the number of children you have. My job is to encourage to you love your children whether they be few or many. You will always have my support, encouragement and prayers.

I am the older woman now and I celebrate your children.



Sandra is wife and best friend to the love of her life and “king” of her home, Don. She is proud mom of their five amazing “world changer” children. Each child is beautifully gifted by God. She’s also a grandmother of three and a mentor to many. Sandra is the owner and writer of Love Abounds at Home. Love Abounds at Home is a blog ministry dedicated to encouraging and building women in their roles as Godly wives, mothers and homemakers. It fuels her passion to be a woman truly living out Proverbs 31 and the Titus 2 mandate. She is passionate about seeing other women walk in the fulfillment and contentment of being the women God has adorned them to be.

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Jeanne Reyes January 28, 2016

I love this post. I love and follow Sandra too. She is so wise!!!

Jill Novak January 28, 2016

Thank you, Sandra, for saying this so beautifully – motherhood is a ministry!

Nancy January 28, 2016

Thank you! I have tears streaming down my face! Why do some people get this and others not? Are they blinded, selfish, or just created differently? Sometimes I feel as if I’m the one created differently, but then I read this and feel not alone.

Pat January 28, 2016

This was such a blessing to read.

Amanda Jones January 28, 2016

Amen!! I am the older woman too and it is refreshing to read your thoughts here. I had 4 and received that all-to disregarding response many times along with “Oh, you are JUST a housewife”. May God continue to bless your ministry of encouragement!

Sharon G January 28, 2016

Amen from another older woman!

Chrissy January 29, 2016

Such a beautiful post.

Elisa January 29, 2016

Thank you! I loved this. 🙂

Maggie February 5, 2016

Beautifully said. What a privilege to be the older woman!

Melody March 3, 2016

Thank you for writing this! We just had our fifth child a few weeks ago, and some days, it is hard to “stand tall”, or even stand at all, when the comments are coming at you with rapid regularity. Sighs, knowing glances, obligatory congratulations… It does cause me to run to God and ask for some of His grace in responding to friends, family, and strangers that are obviously less than thrilled at our having many kids. Thank you for this encouragement, on behalf of every mom with “more than the norm” kids. It confirms what God has spoken to me and my husband.

anfra July 25, 2016

What an encouraging post love it thanks

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