My Identity

by Sandra on June 24, 2016 in Home Culture, Homeschooling, Purpose

All of the decorations are taken down with the exception of a few words glistening with glitter in the green grass. I bend over to pick a few up. There I stood staring. The staring lingered as I saw the words “GRAD” and “CONGRATS”. What am I going to do now? Our youngest child has just graduated from high school.


Always knowing that in the back of my mind, one day the kitchen table would be empty of books, papers and pencils. That day had arrived. I was prepared for it, I had hoped. After all, many hours were spent making sure this homeschool graduate got the celebration she deserved.

There was only one problem. It was a problem that I had created in my mind. Things have changed. Mainly, my identity.

I was no longer a homeschool mom.

Internally, the questions started to plague my mind. How will I introduce myself? What do I say when others ask me what am I going to do now that I have so much free time? Do I go and work full-time outside my home? How about a part-time job? Should we start fostering children? Should I go back to school?

By the next day, I realized, my identity is in Christ and Christ alone. Whether I am a homeschool mom, volunteer twenty hours a week or go back to school; I am still a daughter of the King.

I am not sure why the pressure is there for women to have a title and identify with something or someone in order to feel as though we have worth.

We put unneeded stress upon ourselves and on other women.

Imagine if I met you and introduced myself as Sandra without a list of my accomplishments.

I would hope that you would reach out your hand to me, tell me your name and feel comfortable enough with me to just be yourself.

Knowing that you do not have to impress me, but knowing that our identity is known by the love we share for one another.


By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” ~John 13:35


Sandra is wife and best friend to the love of her life and “king” of her home, Don. She is proud mom of their five amazing “world changer” children. Each child is beautifully gifted by God. She’s also a grandmother of three and a mentor to many. Sandra is the owner and writer of Love Abounds at Home. Love Abounds at Home is a blog ministry dedicated to encouraging and building women in their roles as Godly wives, mothers and homemakers. It fuels her passion to be a woman truly living out Proverbs 31 and the Titus 2 mandate. She is passionate about seeing other women walk in the fulfillment and contentment of being the women God has adorned them to be.

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Ana Sullivan June 24, 2016

I think a lot of us struggle with identity during times of transition. I think that’s why this blog is so important. It is Raising Homemakers. If we see ourselves as HOMEMAKERS, our identity never changes. We need to be able to call ourselves that, no matter what other titles we have along the way. Read my struggle here:

Sandra June 24, 2016

Yes Ana may of us do struggle during transitions. I love reading your post. That’s why I love social media. I have met so may wonderful women via social media. You are right about our identity as homemakers does not change. The home will always need to be made.

Denise Crosby June 30, 2016

Sandra, thank you so much for this. Yes, the pressure is always to have a list of titles behind our name. However, there is one identity I cling to and that is my identity in Christ. Thanks for always being an encouragement:)

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