10 Ways to Bring Blessed and Old-Fashioned Simplicity Back to Your Home

by Jennifer on October 21, 2016 in Home Culture, Homemaking, Legacy

You know that feeling of delight and fulfillment you have after creating something simple for your home? It may be making a home cooked meal, or even gathering tomatoes from your own backyard plant.

It’s that feeling of satisfaction that comes from your own labor. We’re missing that today. The modern homemaker has been duped, and is suffering considerably.

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What Our Twenty-First Century Lives Have Stolen

Pilfered, conned or hoodwinked, which ever term you prefer, it has happened to each of us. We have been utterly and hopelessly, fully and completely… robbed. And what has been stolen was precious and life giving.

Centuries ago women would work hard in their homes to provide meals, bedding and clothing for their family. Whether it was grinding grain by hand or spinning fiber to create fabric, women through the ages had no choice but to work at home daily for the sake of their families.

We see their hard lives and can be thankful for our many modern conveniences, but at what cost? Those women were absolutely essential to their homes. There was no confusion. “But what do you do all day at home?” was never a question they had been asked.

The value of a homemaker was understood.

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While we have gained absolute convenience, what we’ve lost may not have been such a fantastic tradeoff. Since the industrial revolution, women as a whole have lost a sense of purpose and identity in their basic roles, and received as a by-product anxiety and confusion.

The Confused Homemaker

Most women today will admit they are confused. The working mom wonders if she should spend more time at home with her children. The stay at home mom wonders if she should get a part time job to help her husband with the finances. Another working mom longs to be a full time homemaker but wonders how or when it will ever happen.

And confusion ensues.

If we look to God’s Word, we know that:

  • God is not a God of confusion (1 Cor. 14:33)
  • We are to trust in the Lord with all our heart; and lean not on our own understanding (Proverbs 3:5)

The very simple joys of life that the LORD created for good have nearly vanished, perhaps never to return?

Beginning to Thrive Again

Once we see how we are woefully lacking in the blessings of the fruits of our labor we can decide to turn over a new leaf. Perhaps you can see a glimpse of what I’m implying. It’s a life of fruitful labor unto our LORD and for our families.

It is diligently working in our homes. It is planting a garden, sewing a dress, making cookies from scratch, baking fresh, homemade bread, and having a backyard picnic with your children.

It’s taking the time to handwrite a letter to mail to a friend.

It’s reading stories to the babies on the front porch swing, teaching your children the ways of the LORD, providing hospitality to friends, family and strangers alike, and it’s serving your husband well.

It’s not relying on store bought pizzas or texting as a typical form of communication, and it’s not sitting together as family- each member gazing down at their own iPhone.

The Next Step

If you have caught the heart and the meaning of what I’ve described here, you may be giving me a virtual “Amen sister!” all the while asking, “Now what? Where do I go from here in our modern, fast page age of technology and advancements?”

Begin with what you can.  I’ll share a few steps with you:

  1. Be inspired by reading stories of how pilgrims, pioneers, Vikings, ancient Israelites lived
  2. Find a few things that spark your interest and your children’s and begin a project
  3. Learn to prepare simple meals with basic ingredients, all from scratch
  4. Play chess with your children instead of scanning Facebook while the kids play Xbox
  5. De-clutter!  The homemakers before us had much, much less, as did their children (as an added bonus, your children may not develop those feelings of entitlement many kids and young adults embrace today)
  6. Raise your own meat, it could be a simple as a few backyard chickens
  7. Eliminate debt and buy only what you have the cash for, save some too!
  8. Get your husband involved, this doesn’t have to be just a mom and kid’s project!
  9. Venture out even more, buy land in the country and build your own home (we did, it can be done!)
  10. Come up with more ideas on your own, sky’s the limit here!

Your Thoughts?

If you’ve ever thought you would have preferred living in a previous century, or longed for simpler times, you may have had your own thoughts along these lines too.  What else can you add or suggest to help other homemakers adopt a slower pace of life, to gain that Godly satisfaction that comes from simple pleasures?

Jennifer

Jennifer is the cherished wife of a visionary man, and a mother of 11 children. Her deepest desire is to consistently love her husband and children, and to be a diligent and joyful keeper at home, all for the glory of God. She is passionate about encouraging fellow housewives in their highest calling of wife and mother. She and her family produced Homemaking 101 and 201, DVDs for Christian wives and mothers. She can be found blogging at The Focused Homemaker.

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{ 12 comments }

Amy J. O. October 21, 2016

You are SO speaking to my heart. Thank you for more encouragement.

Jennifer October 22, 2016

Amy, thank you for the kind words. I think it’s a (sometimes hidden) longing of many women’s hearts. Would you agree?

Cherie yost October 22, 2016

This is one of my favorite posts! Thank you for writing and reminding me of my purpose.

Jennifer October 22, 2016

You’re welcome, Cherie!
The LORD created work for our good 🙂
Aren’t the His ways best!?

Marcia October 22, 2016

Thank you so much for speaking my heart, as well. It’s hard in this day and age to be that homemaker. It’s also not knowing for sure how to be that “homemaker.” So many things that get in the way and anxiety becomes so much more prevalent. It’s the simplicity in life I long for, sometimes. Thank you, again, for being a voice to women to want to be, but don’t know how. I love readingyour posts. It’s a breath of fresh air!

Holly Banks October 22, 2016

Hi to all, I just had to say that my family and I did all the things on that list. We did not accomplish the declutter or the out of debt perfectly or permanently, but did work on them, and always kept the debt manageable. I really miss those days, especially our after lunch reading aloud time together!
I wanted to mention a resource that I frequently give as wedding gifts, and have purchased for myself and my daughter. It is the book Home Comforts. There are quite a few editions, but this is a modern house keeping manual with anything you would want to know from how often to tune the piano, how to sanitize your counter, and when to believe the laundry labels.

Katrina October 22, 2016

You are absolutely on the right track. I facilitate the women’s min is try at our church and I am often inspired by your thoughts. We recently held an ‘Everything Pumpkin’ event (who doesn’t love pumpkins?!) Where we focused in on the gift of Hospitality. Some of our young mothers spoke on the virtues of mothering and mentoring and the blessings. It was a lovely morning. Enjoyed by young and old. After a simple sack lunch we gathered for Fall wreath making, apron making, (digging out the ole sewing machines) and homemade beauty products made from pumkin, of course. Inspired and blessed. We’re working to bring back those virtues that our grandmother’s demonstrated on a daily basis. The only people that I remember who complained, we’re those who used to watch them work so hard. Keep the inspiration coming!!

Flicka October 25, 2016

When I accepted Christ He brought me home for good. I never really had a job or career that lasted more than three weeks. I missed home too much. I made more money by being home and being frugal.
I made my mistakes with raising my children but I will never regret being a full time homemaker. Time has passed and I look back with some regrets and many more praises. I am in my 70’s now and even though I had a lot of persecution and was called eccentric I am still content being a full time homemaker and now teaching younger ones. Mostly I give them shelter and encouragement from the feminist war on womanhood .
I had a very small farm and raised animals, planted gardens, canned, cooked from scratch, sewed, dried foods over my wood heating stove, and enjoyed keeping my house cozy for my family.
I practiced hospitality and had people from all over the world to visit our old, needy, farmhouse. Enjoy the hard work. It is our therapy on earth. Too many conveniences will destroy your creative side. God is the Creator and He put that into us too. Do not destroy what God has designed for our contentment.

Ashley P October 31, 2016

I completely appreciate your point of view. I am 28 and have three girls (ages 6,5, and 2). I homeschool the oldest right now (my 5 year old starts K next year). My husband is a youth pastor, so you can imagine that the income is very modest. We were deceived when my husband accepted his first position at a church and ended up buried in debt because of many things that were not told to us until it was too late. We have been away from that place for 5 years and still are crippled by debt.
I have been beating myself up, especially lately, about how I should really find a job to help out. I wonder if I will look back and regret not contributing more to our household. I am so thankful to have stumbled onto your comment and see that years down the road, I will look back with fondness and wonderful memories.
My mom always stayed at home with my sisters and I, unless if money got too tight. She would go to work until they were ok again, and be at home. She taught me how to care for a household and how to cook from scratch. I meet women older than I am who say “Who on earth makes ______ from scratch?” and I say ME! Thank you for the encouragement.

Sara L October 29, 2016

And under the part about confusion you could add “and the woman without children wonders if she is still making a difference being a homemaker with no little ones to care for” (Just a reminder that not all homemakers are mothers just like not all homemakers work only at home. I know it’s not the cultural norm to be a homemaker without children at home, but it does happen…) Thanks!

Johnna Buntin November 1, 2016

Absolutely love this post. Also, make your own household/health and beauty aids. Way less expensive and of course much much healthier!

Laura Lane February 11, 2017

Good day! Thank you ladies for sharing this very inspiring post. Together with the spring-like weather, I am inspired to get busy!
Blessings,
Mrs. Laura Lane
Harvest Lane Cottage

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