Misconceptions Of The Modern Day Homemaker

by Brittany on November 9, 2015 in Homemaking

Misconceptions of the modern day homemaker


“You’re lazy… a waste of time… uneducated… oppressed…you eat bonbons all day… over protective… sheltered… noncontributing… a busy body… selfish… you think you’re too good to do “real work”… old fashioned… and no fun”

Ever had any of these phrases pierce your ears? Ever felt the judgment and wondered if these thoughts were encircling others minds?

I think we have all been there a time or two. We’ve had times we let society dictate our worth. At times we have cooked, cleaned, and cared for sick babies in vain wondering what’s the point.

Rather you work outside the home, in the home, or make no income at all; our first job is always to be a homemaker.


Let me take my time and remind you, myself, of exactly what and who we we are.


You are industrious, diligent, and steady. Your lamp doesn’t go out. Even as your body sleeps your mind is working, planning task for the next day.

Your talent is conserved. It is protected and potent to be used and all spent up for the greatest people and gifts in your life.

You are highly educated and are on top of all the leading age advances. You strive to mainstream, and can multitask like no other. Really, how many times do you, “Google,” a day?

You embody the opposite of oppressed. You’re the queen. The queen of your home with freedom within your four walls to be as creative as the Lord directs.

Nobody eats bonbons anymore, if you do…so what!

Overprotective? You sure are. You are called to protect what God has entrusted to you. Wrap your mother wings around your nest.

You aren’t sheltered, you are the shelter. You’re the soft landing place. Home and comfort are wrapped up in you.

You contribute your hands, your feet, mind, soul, heart beat, your determination, creativity, expertise, skills, and your life.

You have no time to be involved in the affairs of others or to participate in foolish gossip. You are the busy body within your realm were you are appointed queen.

Selfish doesn’t inhabit the homemaker. She pours out daily for her family making the home. She sees to it that the needs all around her are met.

You know how to roll up your sleeves. You encompass what real work is. Your job description is long, always getting added to, and life worthy. You are irreplaceable.

Your old fashioned? Good! The people back then had close knit families, marriages that stuck together, and children that contributed to society. Keep it up.

You’re the excitement, the party, you bring the life and sweetness.

Homes don’t just happen or appear. They are pulled together, fluffed, nurtured, and poured into for the benefit of those that inhabit it and eventually the world.

Take your time and continue to do your best relying on God through it all. There may be many misconceptions about what we do, but never from the Lord. Let’s continue to put the misunderstandings to rest and walk the walk as we continue in our calling.

We certainly don’t all have to be wearing aprons, in high heels. You don’t have to know how to knit, sew, or make a pie crust from scratch.


So what about you?

What misconceptions do you put to rest?




Brittany Styron is a believer in Jesus Christ, a wife, and momma to four amazing kids. She has a passion for country living, cooking, gardening, homeschooling, and encouraging women in their roles as wives and mothers. She blogs honestly about all these things at Sweet Country Roots.

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Lexie Robinson November 9, 2015

I LOVE THIS POST! I’m a stay-at-home daughter and a lot of people don’t understand. I work everyday in my home to prepare myself to one day be a keeper of my home. Awhile back, my dad wanted me to work outside of the home. I went on the interview and they asked what my dream job would be. I said, “A stay-at-home mom.” They literally laughed in my face. It broke my heart, but I know the Lord desires me to be home caring for my loved ones. Not to mention, queen of the castle is the most important job ever! You just wrote a pretty lengthy job description that sounds a lot like a superhero to me. Thank you so much for writing this, it has been a huge encouragement!

Brittany November 9, 2015

I love your perspective! Thank you for the sweet words! Keep on following the Lord and the desires He puts in your heart:)

Amy Ping November 9, 2015

M husband and I get in this argument all the time
What he never takes into account is I do everything and then some…..in addition to my house I care for my widowed and crippled father and my MIL I take to her apt and anywhere around town. So yea, I sit on my but and eat bonbons…..when would I have time???? Thanks for the reminder that God puts us where the need is greatest.

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