Your Home Dynamic

by Christin on March 20, 2012 in Home Culture

The house is chaotic as I slip from the ache for more sleep into the cries of a toddler demanding to be heard. Emerging from the warm covers, I stammer into the kitchen while the voices of children follow me with requests of breakfast. I am less than patient, still less than awake. I quietly scold myself for not getting up earlier. I mechanically comply with the endless demands of cereal and bagels and juice. I mumble something about letting mommy make a pot of coffee first.

I wish I could say this was an isolated occurrence, but unfortunately that’s just not the case. The morning hours can set the tone for the entire day–which is why I consistently fight with myself to wake up early, before the children. The entire dynamic of the day would be different.

Creating a home is so multifaceted in nature. There are many elements that create what a home is made up of. One of the most important aspects I have found to be true of what a home is, is it’s atmosphere.

As the wife, mother, and home keeper, it’s natural that much of the atmosphere is made up in us; in our attitude and quite literally the  organization that make up our days, that of our children’s, and what our husbands come home to each night, weekend, or season (if your husband is military).

Is your heart first seeking after the Lord, before anything else? It may not be something that is sought perfectly, but certainly an even flow of regularity.

What makes up your home dynamic, or atmosphere?

Approach

Your attitude can make all the difference in the atmosphere of your home. Even if it’s chaotic, your underlying (or upfront) attitude will be the most driving factor of your home. The manor in which you approach life will be a reflection on your children. How do they see you face each day in the morning? With dread or with delight; with fear or with faith?

Rhythm

Every home has a rhythm, even if it’s imprudent. It builds into your life as it does your children. Evaluate how the rhythm is working for your children. Is it too rigid or too relaxed? Children need clear boundaries in which they can be free to explore life. Boundaries give them a security and safe place while still allowing them some freedom to express their personalities in a healthy way.

Time

The time you invest in your home is part of it’s make up. If you spend little time building, it won’t be a very sturdy or beautiful home. On the other hand, if you take care to mind the details as well as the components that make up the structure, the character of your home will also display it’s personality. In other words, if your children are nurtured, your home is clean and organized, it clearly reflects Christ (even imperfectly) and is spruced, even a little, with your touch of decor style, your investment will bear fruit.

But if you give little matter to your walk with Christ, regular cleaning and purging, or don’t invest in your children, there will be nothing to harvest when the time comes. It’s a large part of your home life.

Putting It All Together

Once you mesh these three aspects together: Approach, Rhythm, and Time, you have a home that is a work of ART all your own. So, you have this work of art, your home, but where is your canvas? Where do you place this work of your hands that will make it most beautiful and lasting?  Where do we write the attitude of our hearts, the rhythm of our lives, and the time we invest?

It’s written right on the hearts of our children.

Whether our attitude is positive or poor; our rhythms sporadic or continuous; our time spent flippantly or specifically–it goes with our children, into their homes and families. It goes deep into their core, sending them a message. What message are we sending? Are we fighting the battle or throwing our hands up in surrender to the lie that “this is who I am”?

Who we are is much greater than where we allow ourselves to stay. God has equipped us and empowered us. We simply need to take the first step and reach for His hand.

Are we reaching, or settling?

Use your guide (the Bible) relentlessly.

All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work. 1 Timothy 3:16-17

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By Christin, Joyful Mothering

Christin

Christin is the wife to a compassionate, God-fearing man, mother & homeschooler of five children (two girls, three boys). She is a woman lost in God. She sees beauty in simple things and appreciates a good cup of coffee. She is learning to live her everydays with joy, find gratitude in the mundane, and speak words of grace. You can find her writing through her days at Joyful Mothering, and tweeting her thoughts on Twitter @ChristinWrites.

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Kela March 20, 2012

EVERY.SINGLE.WORD.IS.FOR.ME!

Christin March 20, 2012

Me, too, friend. Who do you think I wrote this for??? Ha ha! 😉 Glad you got something out of it, too! 😉

Cassandra March 20, 2012

Oh, Christin… your morning sounded just like most of mine! Ha… especially the coffee pot comment. Although, I’m trying to cut back on coffee… trying, being the operative word.
I love this post. I love the idea no matter how chaotic in make-up our home is (lots of kids, projects, games, activities, mess, food, crazy dogs, etc.), we choose how we respond. I’m not an expert at this but I’m getting better with years. Ha. I figure, I must be calm, since so many people always comment on what a ‘relaxed’ mom I am. To me relaxed is a compliment, because the opposite would be stressed, frantic, etc. So, I’ll take relaxed, even if it means there is chocolate on my son’s face and my daughter’s bum-length hair is in knots. (hug) In progress…. Cassandra @ The Unplugged Family

Kela March 20, 2012

Cassandra, I can so relate to you in this.
Relaxed is a compliment to me as well.
Sadly, I too often choose not to be intentional, but dang it… I’m gonna get something right today!

In progress too!

Christin March 20, 2012

I’ve heard people call me “patient” before and I secretly laughed, you know, in my head so they couldn’t hear.
Why is it easier to be patient in front of other people? It’s obvious that it CAN be done and IS controllable! What will it take to get me to be patient especially when no one is looking?

Thea March 20, 2012

Ahhh, a window into my mornings! It is good to know that I’m not alone 🙂 I’ve been trying to get up 30min early each morning so I can at least get dressed, tidy my room, grab a cup of coffee and be sitting down reading my Bible before the early risers start getting up. Not that it always works. I was so tired of being grumpy and rushing around in the morning trying to get breakfast on the table, and my husband out the door with a yummy lunch. It makes such a big difference being ready for the day. When I’m not stressed, and am fully awake our home is much more peaceful. This article is a great reminder on how Mommy sets the attitude of the house.

Christin March 20, 2012

Oh no, you are definitely not alone. And usually I don’t share stories like that (because I don’t think I’m a good story teller), but something prompted me to share a visual so y’all could see just what I’m talking about.
Apparently it worked! 🙂 Thanks Thea, for your comment and sharing a bit of your morning with us. 🙂

Alana @ Domestic Bliss Diaries March 20, 2012

Wonderfully thought-provoking post! I often forget that I set the tone in my home. Thank you for this reminder.

Christin March 20, 2012

I often forget, too, Alana!! That’s why I wrote this reminder to myself. 😉

Erin March 20, 2012

Oh I had the worst day last Thursday. And the worst part was knowing that if *I* could just get my heart where it should be, everything would get better. 😛 Thankful for new mercies every morning . . .

And after 9 1/2 years of motherhood I have finally figured out that if I don’t get up in the morning and read my Bible and drink my coffee and spend some time alone I will go CRAZY by about 9:00. It’s taken me a long time, but that morning routine has become part of my daily rhythm and I’m so grateful for grace that has made it possible. 🙂

Mandy March 21, 2012

Love this post. I have been getting up early to face the day first with Him and then I am filled to walk out the day with everyone else. Love the line “use your guide relentlessly”. I am trying to live by this and create an atmosphere where it is the norm. Thanks for your words.. finding so much encouragement here!! Have been swimming in thoughts and ideas about the mentoring/homemaking ministry that God is clearly calling me to, and I glean so much from the examples found in this place and on your blog, Christin!

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