Why Would I Want to Be a Homemaker? Part 1

by Kelly on February 11, 2011 in Cleaning, Ministry, Servanthood

Over the years, the “picture” of what a homemaker is, or should be, has faded into one of drudgery, where a dull-minded, incapable woman fulfills her endless, boring duties of cleaning toilets, washing dishes, and vacuuming, reaping no rewards or satisfaction. She has a few children, which makes her job even harder, and the best she can hope for is the day they start school. This picture is being constantly promoted, devastating the sanctity of home and any desire to guard and keep it.

And if this is the true picture of being a keeper at home, who in their right mind would want to be one?! Not me!

But dear women, this is not the picture Scripture gives us of a virtuous woman (Proverbs 31)! And due to the lack of older women teaching us otherwise, we need to rise to the challenge of painting another picture–a true picture of the fulfillment that is ours when we understand our role.

The first thing we must understand is that part of our job DOES involve simple hard work. What worthy job doesn’t? But understanding how that work looks in “the Kingdom Realm”, will dramatically change the way we view it.

Washing dishes, cleaning toilets–all those not-so-glamorous things we must do, are filled with the blessed opportunity to SERVE…to daily exemplify our Savior with our hands and hearts! For what was His last act on earth, but the most humble of duties, washing the feet of His disciples, His “family on earth”?

Our understanding of what God has called us to, as Christians…“I beseech you, therefore brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy , acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service”...will radically change the way we view our work.

If we can grasp the heart of our mission here one earth–serving and loving others–then we will be thrilled with the realization that God has put us in a place so rich and full of opportunities to carry out this mission!

It will also help us understand the seriousness of neglecting our service to our families. We begin to see that cooking meals, sweeping the floor, and the thousands of other tasks are not optional if we desire to serve the Lord.

Because if He has called us to love others by serving, “washing feet”, and tending to practical needs,  which is only the beginning of our work, then to bypass our family in order to go out and serve someone else, is a grave offense. There are many noble things in the world to do; but if we do those things to the neglect of the basic service of our family, the nobility is lost.

Look next month for “Staying Home Part 2”!

Kelly Crawford from Generation Cedar

Kelly

Kelly is the blessed wife to Aaron and mom to nine children (and one showing up soon). She and her husband enjoy a bustling life, home-educating and operating several family businesses. Between diapers, searching for bull frogs in the house (a science experiment gone bad) and homemaking for the glory of God, she shares her thoughts at Generation Cedar.

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Renee February 11, 2011

Amen Mrs Crawford,
I’m a homemaker and my own parents are ashamed of me “you are wasting all your potential at home” it’s hard disappointing them but I know that I’m doing the Lord’s will and that is the only thing that matter

I Live in an Antbed February 11, 2011

As unto the Lord . . .

This is such an important principle that you present, Kelly. Thank you for always casting a vision big enough to capture our hearts.

caroline February 11, 2011

I wanted to let you know that I made a post in response to your post, and added the link to your page, so people can come check you out from my blog too! The post is -http://waybackwhenwoman.blogspot.com/2011/02/loving-what-you-do.html
Thanks!

Dianne February 11, 2011

Wow, Kelly! You really spoke to my heart this morning! This article describes exactly how I feel. Sometimes I feel I fit the image of that woman- “where a dull-minded, incapable woman fulfills her endless, boring duties of cleaning toilets, washing dishes, and vacuuming, reaping no rewards or satisfaction.” Thank you, Lord for blessing us with women who are encouraging us to increase our vision! I’m going to read Proverbs 31 every morning to get me started. Can’t wait for Part 2!

Julia February 11, 2011

Wow. Well said. I really needed to hear that this morning. I still sometimes hesitate when people ask me what I do (I get tired of “the look” when I say I’m a SAHM, though sometimes I’m pleasantly surprised). Instead, I should rise up and give homemaking some good PR!

Allison February 11, 2011

I am a recent subscriber and happy to have found you. Yes, Christ came “to serve, not be served” and this is an excellent meditation and reminder to mothers. I hope I can model this to my daughter.

Christie Wiley February 11, 2011

This is a wonderful article. Thank you for sharing it. Growing up, I was never taught a single thing about being a homemaker. I have been one for several years now and find myself struggling daily with it. Until I found the world of blogging and could learn how to be at peace with staying home, I was constantly looking for something to do. I was ignoring my true calling of caring for my home. My own sister wonders why on earth I would want to homeschool my kids because I would be with them 24/7. Ummm, hellooooo…I actually don’t mind that. This article is much needed in today’s society where, “oh, you’re just a housewife” comments are the norm. Love your blog!

Donna @ Comin' Home February 11, 2011

Dear Kelly, That was the exact reason that I started teaching homemaking workshops so many years ago..I loved being a homemaker and wanted to share that love with a whole generation who didn’t know how wonderful our calling really is…or worse.. did not feel equipped for that role. In many ways, the homemaking ‘baton’ was dropped by our dear mothers who were convinced by the world that the job of homemaking was unpalatable and degrading. It’s the most fulfilling, meaningful, rewarding and significant job that any woman could have. We just have to get the word out! That’s what my blog is all about. Thanks for giving women everywhere a place to hear from fellow Christian homemakers so we know that we are not alone..and we can, together, share a new vision for what a ‘homemaker’ really is–a happy, creative, and loving woman.

Blessings,
Donna @ Comin’ Home

PS. Thank you so much for hosting the Wednesday linky party. I’ve so wanted to be able to share my homemaking posts with women who would really appreciate it. It’s great to share my vision of homemaking with women who have never thought of that role as significant or rewarding..but it’s nice to encourage women who love that job and want encouragement and assistance in doing their best at it. Christian community is ‘heaven on earth’!

Lisa H February 11, 2011

Very wonderful reminder to see our homemaking as a blessing and serving our family. The biggest thing to remember is to do it joyfully as unto the Lord. When I think of it that way, my attitude not only changes but it becomes fun and enjoyable. I still have days where I struggle with this. However, my daughter reminded me of the huge impact I have on her. At school, she drew a card of our family and then said she wants to be a stay at home mother when she grows up. Our children are watching our every move and our attitudes. That picture was a sweet blessing and reminder to me.

Sarah February 11, 2011

Thanks for this post. Really been feeling like what I do isn’t important this week. Hope you don’t mind but I linked it in my blog post for today. http://confessionsofacountrymom.blogspot.com/2011/02/being-homemaker.html

Tala Panton February 11, 2011

I am a returning wife to Homemaking. Feeling unappreciated for several years I decided to enter back into the workforce for the past 2 years and it was the most dreadful choice I could have made. 1 week has passed now since I have entered back into homemaking and I feel somewhat LOST…I have no clue where to start; which led me to search online on what I need to be doing. I am a person that respects TIME so I need a schedule of what to do at any particular time of the day. This post was very encouraging in particular The Proverbs; pray for me that I get back on track…sounds simple but losing $50+k annual income in the household will be challenging. Our daughter has declined in her academics lately which REALLY gave me the boost to resign. God continue to keep and bless you all and continue to be encouraged.

Charity February 11, 2011

Great, encouraging, inspiring post! Thank you!

Danielle Vargason February 11, 2011

Guess I was really blest with a stay at home mom growing up…and was blest to be able to stay home when we adopted our two boys at the age of 40….it has been my true calling and I’ve loved it totally……but I know that culture is against the stay home mom….I got all the same comments, “don’t you miss working?” no, actually parenting and taking care of the home is hard work…The Lord has blest us and I wouldn’t have done it any other way…our boys are about grown now into fine young men.

Good article!

Barb February 11, 2011

Dear Kelly, I am glad you are here to help others who are homemakers only. But there are a lot of women out there on the jobs that don’t want to be and are homemakers on top of holding down a job, just like I had to be for so many years. Raising children, having to clean toilets, dust, vaccum and doing all a woman who only stays at home has to do too. The society in the last 30 to 40 years didn’t give some of us a choice but to work or not feed our families. I can remember crying at my job because I wanted to be home taking care for my children and taking care of my home. Women’s Libers stink, and they robbed a lot of families of the right to be what you all are praising on this blog. Praise God for every woman out there that can stay home and be what all women were meant to be a Wife, Mother, Homekeeper. But we still need to pray for those out there that truly can’t be just a homemaker because of a evil idea years ago that women weren’t all they could be as a homemaker. The enemy of our souls brought it on, and has destroyed the family, based on that evil idea!!! Divorce, abortion, and on and on!!! I say you go girls, be the homemakers you can be, but lets reach out to those who would love to be, but can’t, including single parents. I am one of those older women you spoke of as a mentor, well I am mentoring! To God be the Glory!

Lori February 11, 2011

I think you are right on. But remember one thing: I am not a SAHM. I have to work! BUT, my priority is my home. I can’t say that my house is as clean as my neighbors, but my heart is in my home, and I serve there without reservation. It is possible to do both! Hard, but possible. The important thing is our focus. Our motivation. I can glorify God in both my home and my job. I am so thankful for what He has given me!
God Bless~

Cassie February 11, 2011

I loved this article. I goes right along with a conversation I had yesterday with a young lady, 12 years old, from our church that wants to be a pediatrician. I was telling her the great importance of being a homemaker and training your children to be the same. I really enjoy your blog and I’m looking forward to part 2 of this article!

Kimmy February 11, 2011

I know this is a blog about raising daughters…but a friend pointed me to this post. And, it’s an excellent post, by the way. I just wanted to point out that to be a homemaker, one does not have to have children either. I am a homemaker, and I take care of my home and family. My family happens to include only myself, my husband and our dog, but to me, it’s still my family and I take the role of homemaker very seriously. I just think that women who choose to stay home, but do not have kids get overlooked, and judged even more harshly than SAHM’s. So please remember that it’s not just moms out there, it’s women. Thanks for the great post;-)

Kelly February 11, 2011

Barb,

You speak such truth. And it is precisely because of the lie that home is secondary that I think it’s so important mentors like you are there to correct it.

And you’re right–so many women are now stuck and it’s heartbreaking to see. I felt like one of those women for a few years and actually came home not knowing how in the world we would make it financially and struggled, though God was SO faithful.

For this reason, I’ve also blogged a good deal about specific, practical ways a woman who wants to come home may be able to begin thinking in that direction. Because my heart isn’t only to extol the virtues of embracing home, but to offer real solutions.

Thank you!

Alexxus K. H. February 11, 2011

Loved this article – being a homemaker is definitley not “politically correct” in our society. But, in my opinion, it makes it all the more beautiful. The true meaning of homemaking and being a Proverbs 31 woman is lost in today’s world. So when we find women of God who are willing to heed to the call that God has called women to do, they are “worth more than rubies”. =)

Kelly February 11, 2011

Kimmy,

Absolutely agreed!!!

Kim M February 12, 2011

This is beautiful, Kelly! Perspective is everything.

Leslie February 12, 2011

I loved this. What a blessing it was to me to remember once again why I find my heart so filled by doing dishes and cleaning up spills! I actually sent this link to my cousin who once likened being a homemaker to indentured servitude. Thank you so much.
~I’m visiting from “Love Alone”.

JD February 12, 2011

Very thought-provoking post. Thanks!

To Cassie – I hope you weren’t discouraging the young woman about being a pediatrician. If she feels called to serve by healing children, she should follow that call. As many women pointed out above, it is possible to work and be a homemaker. Some of us do not have a choice and need to do both. And some of us feel called to do both.

Tori February 21, 2011

LOVE THIS ARTICLE!!!!!! I will be sharing this website with every lady I know!

Amber Rose February 26, 2011

I believe the home is the most important center point in everyone’s lives, making the job of the homemaker possibly the most important job of all. I hate to see women who choose this path put down for it! Also, I like Kimmy’s comment about homemakers that don’t have children-something often overlooked, but also important.
What Barb has said about women that don’t have a choice is very true-many women, especially in America’s economic situation, don’t have the financial choice to not work-I was raised by a single mother of 5, I’ve always been impressed by how she worked, made art, took care of the home, and the “man” things like fixing the plumbing. However, I strongly, strongly disagree with her comment of women liberation hurting women. We need to remember not EVERY woman wants to be a homemaker-some enjoy working and want to! And coming from a child of a working mother, I don’t believe the home has to suffer.
Most women in the 1950’s would never be able to write something like a blog without either being patted on the head like a puppy dog or scolded. We are fortunate that we get to choose this life path-and there is nothing wrong with a woman that desires to work outside her home and share the homemaking duties with her partner. It’s just our job as modern women to choose our path and defend it when necessary. Keep up the good work, ladies!

Tracy March 8, 2011

This is a wonderful reminder of what we are working for. I am the one that has to rember this often that what I am doing I am doing or the Lord. I scub the toilet for the Lord, I wash dishes for the Lord. I am so truely blessed to have a family that realizes this and bless me with their praise. Great post. Just what I needed when I needed it.

Kimberly Dial March 8, 2011

I am a 49 year-old Nana who left the workforce two years ago to watch my granddaughters while their parents were working. While some were supportive of my decision, most people seem to be of the opinion that soap operas and the eating of bonbons fill my days. Nothing could be farther from the truth! I’m busy from daylight to dark and work just as hard in my home as I did in the office. I realize my payday will come some day when my granddaughters have grown into well-adjusted young ladies. I’m blessed to have a husband supportive of my decision to return to homemaking (he actually encouraged it!) for without his support I would have been unable to follow my heart and I give him Kudos for that! Being a homemaker is an underappreciated ‘occupation’ in today’s world. I too agree with Kimmy — a gal doesn’t have to have children to be a homemaker. Thank you for this post & view from a Godly perspective. Good job ladies!

Laurie @ A word fitly spoken March 8, 2011

Wow, what a great post!!! So needful in these days! It makes me sad that society looks down on the highest calling a godly wife and mother can have. Please keep sharing this message! 🙂

Elizabeth March 20, 2011

This is a very timely subject! I’ve been writing about this at my web site, “Project Home Economics, Year II”. http://pheyearii.blogspot.com. I think it is important for those of us who are keepers at home to value our role in the home and to speak well of it to others.

Kate April 20, 2011

I was raised by a stay at home mother who kept a clean house, served home cooked meals and provided my sister and I a fantastic, experience-rich childhood. My Grandmother was also a home maker and spent a lot of time over the years along side my mother teaching me to can fresh vegetables, bake pies, knit, etc. My husband and I are now lucky enough to be in a financial situation that allows me to stay home to raise our three young sons. I enjoy cooking and baking for my family, we have a small vegetable garden and I love the time I am able to spend reading with my children or taking my boys on outings. At the same time though…I am often bored to tears. I don’t disagree that it is a worthy thing to build a home and I think homemakers (of either gender) deserve to be valued in our society. But for me, I know I will be looking for a career as soon as my children have all gone off to school.

Amber Collier September 1, 2012

there is nothing wrong with being a homemaker. I’ve been a home maker for a year and half and its nice not really for me but there is nothing wrong with it for the women who choose to do that. I kinda do it part time, I make my husbands food, cook, clean, take care of baby while working and going to school, and I love it. It love taking care of my husband and there is nothing wrong with that =) full time home makers deserve respect too =)

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