The Well Watered Momma

by ArabahJoy on October 20, 2011 in Inspiration in Child Rearing, Legacy, Purpose, Unity Between Generations

I once heard a mom referred to as “an old worn out goat.”

It got me to thinking.

Then it got me convicted…because there are days I cave to the exhaustion of mothering.

Then it got me wondering how my children would describe me.

Then it got me to prayer. “Lord, how do I make biblical matrimony and motherhood irresistible to my daughters, even when I am tired and overwhelmed?” (’cause what mom isn’t sometimes?)

The answer came to me unexpectedly one day when someone used the term “well-watered.”

“That’s it!” I thought. “A well watered woman is an irresistible woman.” So I began a biblical search on how to live well-watered. I mean, really live it.

What are some of the ways a woman can live nourished and succored so that what she oozes out day by day is irresistible to her daughters?

It should be no surprise to us that the bible is chock-full of very pointed instruction (Insert a Yippee!) when it comes to living well watered. The instruction is right there for us, if we will take the time to listen and follow it. Passages such as Jeremiah 17 and Psalm 1 teach us how to find life-giving nourishment even in a parched land. We also have female examples such as the widow in I Kings 17 and Esther who model for us how to practically live it out.

In my study, I found five principles for living well watered. I try to keep these principles in my mind so that my daily life is shaped by them. As imperfect as I am at it, I’m finding my responses more and more defined by these principles.

Today I’d like to briefly share the first principle to living well-watered. I Kings 17:11f tells us of the widow going to get a cup of water for Elijah:


“As she was going to get (the water), he called to her and said, “Please bring me a piece of bread in your hand.”

But she said, “As the LORD your God lives, I have no bread…only a handful of flour in the bowl and a little oil in the jar; and behold, I am gathering a few sticks that I may go in and prepare for me and my son, that we may eat it and die.”

Then Elijah said to her, “Do not fear; go, do as you have said, but make me a little bread cake from it first and bring it out to me, and afterward you may make one for yourself and for your son. For this says the LORD God of Israel, “The bowl of flour shall not be exhausted nor shall the jar of oil be empty, until the day that the LORD sends rain on the face of the earth.”


This widow woman illustrates that when we feel our resources are stretched, we tend to focus on what we don’t have and what detriment will come to us. But Elijah’s response teaches us to think and act counter-intuitively.

This widow woman actually ended up living nurtured and cared for, with plenty to sustain her and her son…and enough to feed Elijah with as well. But it didn’t happen through hoarding and reserving her resources or avoiding risk. It happened by living counter-intuitively.

Jesus says in Luke 6:36 “Give, and it shall be given to you…”

The first principle to being a well watered woman is to live counter intuitively.

When the demands of your children seem to suck you dry, remember that jar of oil that never ran dry. Is it possible that the little bit you seem to have left will be multiplied when you offer it up and pour out what seems to be every last drop?

When you haven’t had a good quiet time in days because of sick kids or interruptions that never cease, remember the flour that wasn’t exhausted, the provisions miraculously there for this woman so that she could continue nourishing her household.

Against the odds, the widow lived well watered. And she did it by choosing to act counter intuitively.

Living counter-intuitively starts with thinking counter intuitively. This week, try this exercise: Each time you catch yourself thinking “I can’t do this.” “I don’t have anything else to give” or “I wish I could just be left alone for five minutes” or other similar thoughts, stop yourself. Then remind yourself of the widow and quote this scripture.

Make the choice in your mind to reject the natural way of thinking and then choose to act counter-intuitively. Ask, “What would it look like to pick up the jar of oil and pour it out?”

Then do it!

“So she went and did according to the word of Elijah and she and he and her household ate for many days. The bowl of flour was not exhausted nor did the jar of oil become empty, according to the word of the LORD.” I Kings 17:14

I’d love to have you join me this month at my blog where I’m scratching out the remaining four principles for living well watered. It has been such a blessing for me to ponder these principles and practice living by them! Seeking to make biblical womanhood irresistible….


Arabah Joy and her family have served as missionaries to East Asia for the past ten years. She has been married to Jackson for the past eighteen years and they have four children, both adopted and biological. She has also authored a guide on how to increase energy and has recently released an eBook on living Complete in Christ. Mostly though, she is a broken woman redeemed. She writes about God's sufficiency to transform at Arabah .

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Lisa October 20, 2011

Thank you so much for this wonderful post. I really needed this today! I am going to bookmark this for when I need to see it again and again. Heading over to your blog, as well.

Many blessings,

Tanya October 20, 2011

This is so absolutely beautiful. It spoke deeply to me Arabahjoy, and I thank God for using you with this Word. I’m in a difficult dry season at the moment and of course I just want to continue giving to my beloved family, for they are mine, given to me by The Most High. Lately I have reached that breaking point a few times. What a wonderful study — The Well Watered Woman. I will head on over to your blog and subscribe. I must remain diligent in the good fight. Glory to Christ who strengthens us. Thank you!

Cara @ WhimsySmitten October 20, 2011

Thank you so much for this. I admit that I haven’t given enough thought to how I’m encouraging (or discouraging) my daughter, from a young age, to view biblical marriage. I sometimes feel guilty trying to “stay watered” when there are so many demands on my time, but you remind me that this is a gift I give my husband and my children…and their children…and their children.

Wonderful, inspiring post!

Christin October 20, 2011

Just. Wow. Wonderful word, Arabah Joy, thank you.

Eryn {mamahall} October 21, 2011

I want to live (& think) counter intuitively. Thank you for this reminder.

Jennifer Ellis October 21, 2011

This post REALLY convicted and encouraged me today! Thank you so much for writing this. I am applying this today, giving ounce by ounce of myself!

Heather October 21, 2011

I loved this! And I’m looking forward to walking out the challenge here to memorize that scripture and keep pouring out when everything in me is saying there isn’t enough.

And I’m looking forward to the rest of the series, thank you!

Suanna October 21, 2011

Thanks for the encouragement. I’ve been in a desert over the last few weeks. On Wednesday this week we had a great, wonderful day (like almost 100% better than it’s been). My husband made the comment that when you get to the bottom of the barrel the only way to go is back up. I told him it must be raining then 🙂 I need more water for the barrel to get full, but a little rain is definitely a needed encouragement.

Jenifer Harrod October 21, 2011

I really liked what you had to say here. I just told my children the other day about this passage because we had very little food and told them that we should maybe give some of our little food to the pastor. Then I saw this post and the way you wrote it was great! I can see that God wants me to get this. That I should rejoice in every little bit that we DO have and see what God sill do in our lives. Sometimes I just forget to trust God for the next meal and I get down.
I was wondering if you would consider writing a little something like this for my blog to encourage the readers.

Melissa Wilhoite October 22, 2011

Thank you so much. It brought tears to my eyes. Trusting God is the only way!

Sarah November 7, 2011

I don’t know how many times I’ve sent various friends a link to this post!! It’s been about 2 weeks, now, and this post – your writing – this inspiration is still impacting me [and blessing those around me]! THANK YOU.

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