Raising Daughters That Will Raise the Next Generation

by June Fuentes on December 9, 2011 in Faithfulness, Inspiration in Child Rearing, Legacy, Ministry

Today we have a guest post by Jenny Ervin of A Mother’s Heritage:

They rocked their babies gently with the blankets wrapped carefully around each one. When it was time to pray all three began their motherly sway as they tenderly bounced their little ones to sleep during family worship. Yes, there they stood. My three little girls pretending to do what they have seen many, many times. And my heart smiles inside.

There is nothing I would rather my daughters imitate than mothering. Caring tenderly for the life of another, being a nourisher and giver of ones self is a high calling. In a time when we have “take our daughters to work” day, and “career day” this is where I want their little feminine hearts to beat.

The world cries out daily in it’s loud voice to quench these longings towards the home. Home is deemed second place. And we pummel our little girls with questions of what they want to be when they grow up. When they answer with bright eyes and joyful lips “I want to be a Mommy!” the enemy voices seek to spring up and give us doubt. “Of course, you want to be a mommy… but what else?”

What else?
 
Isn’t that enough? Isn’t it enough to be raising the next generation? Isn’t it enough to have a small army under you that you are training for God? Isn’t it enough to be growing little minds, hearts and souls in the rich soil of the gospel…planting seeds of truth to bear fruit, with His blessing? Isn’t it enough to have a gospel nursery right there in your small suburban home, or in your tucked away country dwelling?

Yes, it is enough. God deems it so. He loves this high calling and so should we.

And so when other girls might be fixated on the next fad in clothing, and what career path they will be focusing on…I joy to see my little ladies rocking away with their dollies. I delight in seeing the practiced way they lovingly dress and care for their charges, pretending to bring them to “Grandma Jenny”. It is sweet to see them lifting their shirts to pretend to give nourishment to another, and kissing a sweet little head of their imaginary child. They are practicing…and it warms my heart. They are valuing one of the things that is precious to the Lord.

This also causes me to stop and think…what am I modeling for my girls? With my own 8 month old I am a daily an example to my other young ones. Do they see me sigh in frustration when the needs of my baby interrupt my previous plans. Do they hear me complain when I have been awakened many times in the night to feed my baby?

Or, am I exemplifying a spirit of joyful, sacrificial, radiant motherhood?

Do my children see me giving of myself cheerfully?

Do my children know that they delight me?

I pray that more and more these latter attitudes will pervade my home, and may the sweet aroma of the Titus 2 graces fill your dwellings as well.

 

Jenny is an ordinary mom with an extraordinary God. Following a beautiful courtship, she has been married to her best friend for over 16 years. Jenny homeschools her 7 children (ages 14-8mo). When she is not teaching, playing with her children, or changing diapers, she loves to sing, write, blog and clean…yes, clean. As a recovering OCD perfectionist and “neat freak” she still has unmatched socks, messy closets and is allergic to mornings. Jenny is also the author of the ebook Embracing the Mess. Come and be encouraged, blessed and challenged in your high calling as a wife and mother over at A Mother’s Heritage. You may also follow her on Facebook, or Twitter.

 

June Fuentes

June Fuentes is the happy wife to Steve and blessed homeschooling mother to eight beautiful children that they are raising for the Lord. She has a heart to see mothers all around the world grasp the vision of biblical motherhood and to see this noble role restored in the 21st century to the glory of God. June strongly believes that weak homes equate a weak nation and therefore blogs at A Wise Woman Builds Her Home to minister to Christian women on how to build up strong Christian homes. She is also the owner of Raising Homemakers, and is the author of the encouraging eBooks, True Christian Motherhood and How to Build a Strong Christian Home. She is the founder of Wise Woman Consulting, her service to teach women how to successfully make money blogging at home and a consultant for Lilla Rose, where you can find unique and beautiful hair products. She would love for you to join her on the journey to biblical womanhood on Facebook and Twitter at @wisewomanbuilds.

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Kristi December 9, 2011

I have often fallen into the trap of saying “what else” after my daughters express a desire to be a mommy as if it is less than a calling. After all, it is what I am doing! : ) Thank you for opening my eyes to this.

Caroline @ The Modest Mom December 9, 2011

Thank you for this post! It was beautiful and encouraging.

Nicole December 9, 2011

I, too, love watching my little girls with their babies. My girls have loved babies since they themselves were babies. They would squeal and get all excited and give slobbery kisses before they could even walk. Apparently, being a mommy is ingrained from birth πŸ™‚ Knowing quite a few women that had babies and said, “Now what??!!”, I am proud that even my little ones, 3 & 5, are very aware on how to meet the needs of a smaller child. And my older two, 9 & 11, can very capably take care of little ones on their own. Their learning is just beginning, but I trust that they will all be wonderful mothers someday!

Rhonda @ Abide at Home December 9, 2011

Precious post! Our culture puts SO much pressure on women – to be beautiful, successful, smart, ambitious – and they lie to us and tell us that we can do all of that AND be a good wife/mom. The fact of the matter is that we canNOT do everything and do everything well. I am learning this in my own life – less truly is more, and focusing on what really matters is key. As a “smart” girl, I still have days where I feel like other people think I’m not living up to my potential, and then I start to struggle with believing that as well. Thanks for the reminder that there is truly NO GREATER CALLING than to be a godly wife/mom. And boy, is THAT a cultural aberration!! πŸ™‚

Marlina December 9, 2011

I think it depends on the daughter. Not all are called to motherhood. What if God has other plans for my daughter? I would not push her to motherhood, in case that is not God’s wish.

Anna Molder December 12, 2011

There is no way to know what God will call our children to do. Why not nurture that part of them just in case? The worst you will do is give them the skills they can use to minister to other peoples children and the best you will do is to prepare them for the ministry to which most women are called, motherhood!

Tania @ Larger Family Life December 9, 2011

I blogged about this very thing a couple of years ago, titled “Housewife and mother = not enough” – http://www.largerfamilylife.com/2009/09/housewife-and-mother-not-enough.html7

It is so sad how undervalued these roles have become.

Annalyn December 10, 2011

I have always felt the pull toward motherhood, having wanted to be a mom since I figured out that little girls grow up to be mommies (about the time my oldest brother was brought home from the hospital.. we’re 22 months apart).

Unfortunately, I found out when I was 18 that I will never bare my own children. Motherhood will come to me via another route. It’s been a long journey dealing with that disappointment. Hopefully, someday, I will be in a position finally to be able to invite that blessing into my life. After a failed 10-year marriage and being 36, I’m beginning to lose hope though. πŸ™

Maybe some day.

Jennifer~Renewing Housewives December 10, 2011

What precious words Jenny!!

“The world cries out daily in it’s loud voice to quench these longings towards the home”

It does! And you are so right to guide your daughters into motherhood! What a blessing!

Karen December 10, 2011

THANK YOU for posting this article!!! My little girls loved their baby dolls when they were little and to this day they love little children and have a hearts desire to one day be a wife and mother. I think a lot has to do with how the parents of the family view motherhood. I am so blessed to have a husband that does not deem motherhood as unimportant and who wishes me out of the home to “help” with the finances. He holds to position that God has placed the man to be the spiritual leader and provider for his family as stated in scripture. I am saddened when other believers have the same worldly perspective, that motherhood is not a worthy “goal” to be desired above a career. We have diminished what God has created deep into most women– to be a helpmeet, to be a person who nourishes another human life to raise the next generation of God-fearing individuals that will in turn do the same for the next generation and so on! This is no easy task! We also do not see the role of motherhood as a spiritual battle for our children’s souls! The statistics are out–only 9% of evangelical Christians have a biblical worldview!!!! http://pleaseconvinceme.blogspot.com/2009/03/barna-study-shows-grim-results-for.html Having to send my child away from me for 8 to 9 hours for the rest of his or her life would be the most saddest thing I could ever imagine having to do. How is a mother to influence her child for the few hours after work? Even then, the hours they do have is spent having to fix dinner then get ready for bed and the next day. My heart breaks for mothers being robbed of the joys of motherhood and for the children who have to form another attachment to someone that may not stay longer than 6 mos. I worked in daycare before I had children.

We have bought into the belief that both the husband and wife have to work in this day and age to “make it”. I grew up with a mom that stayed home with all four of us siblings. We did not have cable TV, did not go on vacations, did not drive a nice car, did not go out to eat, and did not have the best clothes. But what we did have was a loving, secure, family that lived for the Lord and where all of our basic needs were met and cared for. We did not miss what we did not have–did not know we were “missing out” on anything. We also fear the “what ifs”. I admit I am also guilty of this. “What if” something happens to the husband? “What if” my daughter doesn’t get married? etc. But then I look back at how God has provided in my own family and in others–not to mention the endless examples in His Word. He IS our Jehovah Jireh–The LORD will provide!!!! Do we REALLY believe this to be true?

Rhonda Devine December 10, 2011

How beautiful~thanks for sharing, it’s a good reminder to LOVE what we do as moms so our children will look forward to that day when they, too, can nourish the next generation.

Heather :) :) :) December 10, 2011

This is a really sweet post πŸ˜‰ πŸ™‚ I’m not married, nor have kids…yet πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ However, in my family we were taught to respect the role of mother/wife…and that staying home with your family is a position that is to be respected πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ If God gives me a hubby and kids, then I want to train them up to love Jesus πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ Love and hugs from the ocean shores of California, Heather πŸ™‚

Elisabeth@Lizzy's Nest December 10, 2011

Motherhood is a beautiful calling. I am thankful that all of daughters want to be Mommies. My two youngest daughters always have thier dolls with them during our family worship time as well. It always makes me smile.

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