Pray for Your Kids

by Kimberly on August 18, 2011 in Faithfulness, Grace, Inspiration in Child Rearing, Nurture

The further I travel on this parenting path the more I realize my inadequacy. I can plan and schedule,  I can train them and teach them everything that I know about homemaking. I can have the God-given goal of training these girls in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. I can do this with all the strength that He gives, but I know that it is not enough and if I am to have any hope, I must fall to my knees and beg God for His mercy on my children.

Praying for our children is a vital part of parenting and something with which I often struggle. A prayer journal has been a valuable tool to help me consistently pray for my children.

I have a notebook in the back of my Bible where I keep a list of specific requests for each of my children. These are things for which I pray everyday and they are specific to each child and where they are in their spiritual and physical maturity.

Some current examples of my requests for my children are; kind speech, diligence in their work, progress with specific school subjects, obedience, spiritual maturity, contentment and a willingness to deny self in order to serve others.

In addition to praying through this list daily, I have used this list to encourage and/or exhort individual children. When a child is having a particularly tough fight with an obvious sin, I will sometimes take them aside and tell them that I am praying for them in this particular area and encourage them to add it to their prayer list also. I remind them that God commands us to pray (Phil. 4:4-7) and promises that He will answer our prayers (Luke 11:9-13) and that He loves it when we pray and ask Him for help.

I frequently tell the children when I am able to cross a request off their list. For example, I pull the child aside and say, “Mommy has been praying for you to speak kindly and God has answered my prayers. You have been speaking with kindness and I’m proud of you.” Then we pray and thank God for answering prayer and for enabling that child to speak kindly to others.

A few years ago we had a child who was struggling with lying. It was a time of intense struggle and we were dealing with the issue daily, if not several times a day. At one point I sat down with the child and told him/her that I was praying for them to speak the truth and I showed him/her that request on my list.  The child broke down into tears and hugged me and thanked me for praying for them to stop lying. They said that they wanted to tell the truth and asked God to help them tell the truth, but it was just too hard. Knowing that I was praying for them in that specific way encouraged that child. Rather than feeling alone in a difficult battle they knew that they had an ally. That time of dealing with dishonesty was short-lived and we rejoiced together when it was once again easy for him/her to tell the truth. To this day when we ask “Who did…?” this child is the first to confess if they are guilty. The child does not fear speaking the truth and we continue to thank God for His work in that life.

 So when the weight of responsibility weighs heavy, do not worry rather pray. Pray for your children, casting your cares upon Him because He cares for you. (1 Pet.5:7)

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Kimberly

Kimberly is a homeschool graduate, thanks to her mom's cancer diagnosis. Now married to Mark and blessed with eleven children; Kimberly homeschools, washes mountains of laundry, mops acres of floors and attempts to live deliberately by examining each decision in light of God’s word. She blogs about managing it all at Raising Olives.

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Blair August 18, 2011

Love the idea of a prayer journal and sharing with your kids how you are praying for them. I can definitely see how that would encourage them and help them work through specific issues. Thanks for sharing your experiences!

Cassandra August 18, 2011

I agree – the journal is a great idea. I have a prayer journal… I just need to actually WRITE in it more often…. *sigh* Thanks for this encouragement!!! 🙂

Cass @ Unplug Your Family

Kimberly August 24, 2011

I actually keep a notebook in the case with my Bible. I’m notorious for writing myself a note and forgetting where I wrote it and know if it wasn’t all together I would never find it, let alone write in it.

Jennifer August 18, 2011

How timely this post is! I am beginning, next week, a weekly scripture prayer post each Wednesday on my blog. I have become burdened to pray God’s Word over my children. Thanks again for this challenge and important reminder to pray for our children…the best and most worthy gift we can give them.

Ellen Yoder August 18, 2011

Love it

Stuff and Nonsense August 18, 2011

excellent post…i especially appreciated your story about lying…letting our kids know when we are interceding in specific ways for them is very powerful…each summer for the past two years i have hosted a mom’s prayer group every monday morning where we pray through ‘the power of a praying mom’ book…it has been such a blessing to join with my friends in prayer for our children…thanks for the encouragement.

alison

Kimberly August 24, 2011

What a lovely way to build deep relationships with your sisters in Christ, to pray join together as you pray for your children.

Diana Franklin August 18, 2011

Wow-I definately needed this. A million thanks.

sara August 18, 2011

Great encouragement. I remember hearing a speaker asking “If you won’t pray for your children, who will?” I can’t think of anyone out there regularly praying for my children, or me either! I love the way that you made this manageable – my prayer lists tends to get too long when I actually try to be organized about it.

Rhonda August 18, 2011

Oh, how true–it’s a liberal dose of God’s grace and much prayer that we are able to raise children to follow the Lord. May we never rely on our own strength.
Blessings,
Rhonda Devine

Christin August 18, 2011

I love Kat’s (from Inspired to Action) prayer calendar for our children. It helps me to remember what vital things to pray for.

A prayer journal has kept me focused before, but I have struggled to keep up with it. But, we do pray with each child before bed time and we will pray for specific character traits that we’ve been learning about to be sown in each child’s heart.

Thank you for this. Prayer is often an overlooked necessity in our spiritual walk and that of our children.
Blessings, Kim!

Kimberly August 24, 2011

Thank you for the link Christin.

LaToya August 18, 2011

This is wonderful! I don’t have girls but my boys have been on a serious disobedience streak and misbehavior lately. These words spoke to my heart today. THANKS!

Alexxus August 18, 2011

Prayer is definitley our strongest weapon against the enemy. Thank you for this!

Stacy August 19, 2011

When my now 19yo son was about age 7 he had a horrible problem with self-control. We tackled it with prayer and covered his bedroom walls with related Scriptures. Today self-control is one of his character strengths, praise the Lord! Still, I am not as consistent as I should be. Thank you for the reminder.

Lisa August 19, 2011

Wonderful post!
Stacy…a question for you…we, too, have a young son struggling with self-control and I am encouraged by your son’s victory. Would you mind sharing the verses you placed on his walls?
Thank you!

Missy June August 19, 2011

Thank you, Stacy, for the word of hope regarding your 7 year old boy…my guy is seven right now and truly struggling with focus and self control. It feels hopeless.

Kelley Wallace August 19, 2011

I really like the idea of sharing with them how you’re praying for them when they are struggling. Thanks for a great post!

Kimberly August 24, 2011

It’s beautiful to see how much they appreciate the prayers. I think that sometimes as parents we think that they just don’t care about their bad behavior, but when I share with them that I’m praying for them, I see the relief on their face that they are not in this struggle alone.

Angel7 August 19, 2011

Awesome, awesome post–so eloquently worded, and based on real life experiences!!!

I loved the prayer journal idea, and wrote my daughter’s needs on an index card as I read your post!

Thank you so much for sharing!

MaDonna August 19, 2011

I love the idea of showing your child what you are praying for them. I, too, have a youngster battling lying. We’ve prayed and prayed and have seen seasons of breakthrough…then it comes back. Thanks for sharing your story…it really encouraged me to share with my child. I want her to know that she is not alone in this battle.

Ruth August 19, 2011

Good words of encouragement, Kimberly.

Restored Grandma Terry August 20, 2011

This is so powerful. My children and grown but we have 5 grand-children and one of them has a problem with telling the truth. It has a lot to do with her real mother lying which is another issue. But in my ebook on parenting, I address things such as this. Naturally a parent will focus and talk to much about the problems instead of focus on something good. Example, when you know that the child has told the truth; you pull the child aside or at bedtime is the best so they go to sleep thinking about it, you say, ” Son, today I know you told me the truth about that problem at school and I really appreciate that and it shows be that you are a very honest person, or responsible person….I’m proud to be your Dad or Mom” This is what I call, Instilling Positive Belief in the child’s thoughts of himself and encourages the good behavior to continue. They want to make the parent proud of them.
Prayers are your weapons against Satan on the playground where your children play. I am encouraged even more after reading this post to start a prayer journal like I use too. I had one for my Husband also, using the book called “The Power of the Praying wife”. I re-typed all the prayers in the book and put his name in place of husband, put them in a notebook in clear sheet protectors. Each day I prayed one for him. Thank you so much and for the wonderful traffic I’m getting on my new website/blog. I haven’t sold an ebook yet but I trust in God for favor. “Become a Parental “Coach”.

Michelle August 20, 2011

This is wonderful, Kimberly. I, too, love your prayer journal idea!

Amy August 20, 2011

I love the notebook idea. I am a list person so this is something I would like to try in my prayer journal.

Lyn Deutsch August 24, 2011

Great post! Very blessed!

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