Intentional Training

by Christin on April 23, 2011 in Training Ground for Mature Adult Character

Some of you, [myself included] were probably not raised in the training and knowledge of biblical womanhood. As a result, you often struggle with raising your own daughters in this knowledge simply because you don’t know how.

You don’t know where to begin, how to introduce it, what resources to use. But you know what? There are more resources out there for help in this area than you might think. And perhaps you might be over-thinking the situation as a whole? I know I do.

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Your home is a training ground for your children–daughters in particular. Your first priority is not to your home, but to your children.  But, since your home cannot go neglected, how about meshing the two together?

Your daughter needs to learn laundry skills and organizational skills, among others. Sometimes children are naturally inclined to do well at these things, and sometimes they’re not.

You should set aside intentional time to teach your daughters those skills with which she struggles with. It will be much less frustrating for the both of you if you take the time to train and be certain she knows your expectations.

In addition to these tangible skills, you can [and should] be intentional about training your daughter in godly character.   Often we rely too much on waiting for “teachable moments” before we train our daughters in godly character. Why wait until it becomes a problem when you can prevent [or minimize] the problem? These are questions I often ask myself.

I want to encourage you to begin being intentional about training your daughter(s). Everything from character training to homemaking skills. There are many very good resources out there to help you with this. Some are free, some are not (but well worth the investment, I assure you).

The concept is simple. Putting it into action is the challenge.

  • Choose a skill or trait and set out to work on it for a day or a week or a month. However long you think it needs to be “worked in” to your daughters life for it to become more apart of who she is. I suggest beginning with something that she can succeed at fairly quickly. It will motivate and encourage her (and you) to move forward and begin a new skill or character trait.
  • Create a calendar with the training items listed on it so you know what you will be working on. Plan no more than a month in advance simply because life can easily change things. I like to focus on one skill or trait for at least one week.
  • Write out a plan to put the training into action. What will she do? What is your role? Write down some encouraging scriptures or quotes to spur you both on.

You can look into these resources to help you:

*Home Ec 101 {website}

*Future Christian Homemakers {e-book}

*Beautiful Girlhood by Karen Andreola

*The Kings Daughter by J. White

*Polished Cornerstones by Doorposts

*Proverbs for Parenting by Barbara Decker

For more resources, you can view the “Recommended Resources” page, here on Raising Homemakers.

*Question:What do you need to be more intentional about in your training?

By Christin, Joyful Mothering

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Christin is the wife to a compassionate, God-fearing man, mother & homeschooler of five children (two girls, three boys). She is a woman lost in God. She sees beauty in simple things and appreciates a good cup of coffee. She is learning to live her everydays with joy, find gratitude in the mundane, and speak words of grace. You can find her writing through her days at Joyful Mothering, and tweeting her thoughts on Twitter @ChristinWrites.

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Leila April 23, 2011

Great post! Thank you for sharing! Happy Easter!

Hope Wilbanks April 23, 2011

Great post with excellent resources! I’m the same. Never really had training, had to learn how to do things on my own because I was expected to do them. I’ve tried so hard to learn how to be a teaching mother to my daughter, but it isn’t easy because I didn’t have it myself as a child. This will help! Thanks so much!

L2L April 23, 2011

Another good resource I happen to come across in guiding me to teach my daughter all those things I know she should know but don’t know about them because I was never taught is Keeper’s of the Faith’s Keepers of the Home. I thought it was a tool that every mother could put in her apron and well worth mentioning along with all the other worthy resources you listed above!!!

Mrs. Nicol Epple April 23, 2011

What a great informative post! I lead group called “Maidens Of Virtue”. We are a group of mothers and daughters who meet monthly for all of the above reasons. We share bible study (right now we are using a wonderful book written by a homeschooler- very spiritually mature! Noble Girlhood), have a skill or craft to learn (the girls enjoyed learning crocheting this winter and took to it better than some of us mothers!) and fellowship time. I strongly believe in intentional training and these meeting have been a great way to do so with other like-minded females.

Dusty April 23, 2011

Great post! I am planning on purchasing Polished Cornerstones to add to our homeschool curriculum for the upcoming year for my daughter. I’m going to look into the other resources as well.

Anonymous 2 April 23, 2011

As an outsider with an open mind, (a non-Christian feminist) I’m curious about your take on raising sons.

Do you feel it is important for them to learn homemaking skills as well? What if they can’t find their bride right away or what if they are widowed?

I appreciate your perspective.


Jen April 23, 2011

Thanks to the arrival of a baby sister, and the upcoming arrival of a baby brother, both my older children know at least the basics of caring for an infant/toddler. Because we feel it’s important for a father to also know how to care for his children, my son and daughter have both been included in this. I’m not a woman’s libber by any means!, but I intend to make sure ALL my children know how to take care of themselves. I think these resources are great for that! I think the best way I’ve found to teach my children to do any skill well is to work along side them. My goal for this summer is to teach the older two how to do laundry. I worked with them on it before, but they were just a little too young. They’re now old enough and big enough to carry the baskets and reach into the washer, so they will be helping me out with this task when the new baby comes!

Christin April 23, 2011

Thank you L2L for recommending that resource! I looked it up and it sounds like a wonderful book to have. I’ll have to add it to my list. 😉

Renee April 23, 2011

I have to say AMEN to this post! My mother wasn’t a homemaker nor a Christian, so after the Lord save me in my adult life and that my husband and I started a family I feel quite loss with the whole homemaker christian wife and mother thing, I pray that as I learn our precious daughter will learn along side of me and hoping for less hardship when they too will marry and have a family!

thank for all the resources and links:-)

Ps Christin you are a wonderful mother and a beautiful Godly figure for your daughter, she is really bless to have you as a mother 🙂

Much love sister

Christin April 23, 2011

Dear Anonymous,
Yes, absolutely I believe sons should learn the basics of running a home. I did not mention it here simply because this particular space is dedicated to training daughters. 🙂

Alicia April 23, 2011

I just posted about this being one of the things I have been thinking about lately. Unfortunately my daughter is 12.5yrs now but I am looking to set up a calendar of trainings for her so she doesn’t have to learn as a grown woman like I.

Thanks for the post and the resources!

Jo April 23, 2011

My mother taught me all these skills when I was growing up, but it wasn’t called “intentional training” it was called chores and we just had to do them – both my brothers and I. I particularly disliked the dusting, but I still had to do it. Doing them every week certainly taught me how to do them well! I have trained my sons to manage a home, one as now left home and using all the skills he has learned to cook and clean. It is very important to teach boys as one never knows when these skills may become important. Both my sons are excellent cooks and can clean up there messes.

Christin April 26, 2011

Here is a wonderful article that mirrors this well. This deals more with the character side and it speaks to my heart tremendously.

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