Do You Like Your Children?

by Kelly on August 15, 2011 in Inspiration in Child Rearing

As the new school year approaches, I’ve heard more and more “rejoicing” by mothers declaring “just X number of days and the kids will be out of the house”. And while I’m sure there are many, many moms who lament this ending of precious time with their children, there seems to be a disturbing number who do not. I have no doubt these moms LOVE their children; I just don’t think they enjoy them.

Add to that the lack of “generational vision” of raising up godly children, a mammoth-sized feminism force telling them they should pursue their own interests no matter what, no encouragement from older women to be keepers at home, and no cultivated taste for homemaking, and it’s no wonder so many women have fled to the corporate world!

Well, we ladies have a lot of work to do fulfilling our duty as the “older women”….but I find it downright heartbreaking that we have cultivated a whole generation of parents who don’t even enjoy their own children, to the degree they are glad for them to spend a large portion of the day somewhere else.

One of the reasons for not enjoying one’s children is the failure to teach them simple obedience and respect. I’ve seen children who haven’t been taught respect for their parents–I wouldn’t want to spend the day with them either. Raising obedient children is almost a lost art…and yet, it is actually quite simple! Well, the concept is simple. The tough part is making the commitment to spend the time and energy required to carry out these “simple” principles.

Oh that parents would understand who they are, what they have in their children, the vastly important work God has given them, and the privilege to carry out that work!

But as the value of children decreases, the value of the parent’s role also decreases. Obedience is only a thing hoped for, not a thing claimed by authority. And then all the parents gather together, shrug shoulders, compare notes, and console themselves by the fallen standards all around them. “Kids will be kids”, they say.

But the Lord has a different message…it is not outdated. How do you think Scripture can so boldly proclaim, “Children are a heritage of the Lord; the fruit of the womb is His REWARD. Blessed is the man whose quiver is FULL of them.”?

Does the average parent believe this? Does he equate a house full of children with “reward, happiness and blessing”? If not, he’s doing something wrong! I’m not talking about perfect children–they’re still sinners. I’m talking about children who understand authority and respond to the love and security they feel when parents establish healthy authority in the home.

The children described in this verse are children whose parents have understood the mandate…

“Train up a child in the way he should go…”

“Raise your children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord…”

“Discipline your son while there is time…”

“A child left to himself brings his mother shame…”

If we don’t enjoy our children, is it our fault or theirs?

Children are indeed a joy (among the hard work) when we embrace the whole counsel of Scripture and train them (all day, every day) in the nurture and admonition of Him that gave us these good gifts!

Getting Your Children to Obey is an ebook full of encouragement and practical advice to help you begin enjoying your children! (Raising Homemaker readers can take $1 off at checkout when they enter the discount code: “children”!)

 

Kelly

Kelly is the blessed wife to Aaron and mom to nine children (and one showing up soon). She and her husband enjoy a bustling life, home-educating and operating several family businesses. Between diapers, searching for bull frogs in the house (a science experiment gone bad) and homemaking for the glory of God, she shares her thoughts at Generation Cedar.

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Jenna August 15, 2011

Oh wow! I was just thinking these things myself as the school year is fast approaching. I have carefully considered the ramifications of home vs. public school for my children. Because the caliber of the schools where I live is so wonderful, I’ve decided that public school is going to be very beneficial for them and they’ve already had some really great experiences, so I have put them in school. But I am lamenting the fact that the twelve weeks of summer sped by so quickly and will already be looking forward to next summer.

Betty August 15, 2011

Beautiful post! I am grateful for homeschooling because it has given us the opportunity to get to know and enjoy our children. I have a friend that is near the top of my prayer list because I don’t believe she sees her 2 children as people instead of just as obligations or duties. No only does she count down the days until school starts, but she enrolls her son in summer school every year whether he needs it or not. It’s heartbreaking to watch this and other parents rejoice over the end of summer vacation right in front of their kids.

Thanks for the post. Would you mind if I linked to it next week in my weekly Interesting Reading post?

Karen S. August 15, 2011

We took our parenting scriptures to heart with our 14 year old boy. We have homeschooled him, and loved it! We don’t need to worry how some other teacher is ‘training up’ our child for 6+ hours a day, and we are able to instill all the faith values and traditions we hold as worthy. He has been tagged as the kid in the neighborhood who is polite and engaging with adults…they notice a real difference in how he speaks to them. All in all, we are pleased with the going on the results of 8 years of homeschooling.

Lisa Mather August 15, 2011

I’m a homeschooling mama, and there are days where I am glad to have those quiet times. Sigh. I was raised by a single mother who worked all the time to make a living for my sister and I. Needless to say, I’m a first generation SAHM as well as homeschooling mama. It is definitely hard to be what I know I ought to be with having had no training. I praise God for the wisdom I glean from my mother-in-law, a wonderful housewife who also aided in homeschooling her kids; the blogs that I’ve found that have taught me such wonderful things-like this one and your 31 Days to Clean challenge. That challenge alone and the support groups on facebook have been so helpful in helping me to maintain my home. I praise God that I am not who I once was, but am getting closer to what God wants me to be.

Shine August 24, 2011

I do not believe there is anything wrong with enjoying some quiet times in your day if children are off doing other things in the home or with an occasional care provider (for us this is Nana a few times a month). “Some” is the key word! Everyone needs a break now and then, so please don’t feel bad about that if you were!! It is when we wish them away when we DO have time with them we need to consider the reason why our hearts are feeling this negativity towards the gifts God placed in our lives.

Misty Appleby August 15, 2011

WELL said! I couldn’t have said it better myself. Thanks for being so bold to write this!

Barb S. August 15, 2011

It’s not just this generation. I remember hearing older women in my life saying the same thing. This was about the time we had started to homeschool. It always saddened me and I wished they could just see what fun I have with my kids.

Dusty August 15, 2011

I just love this post! I get comments all the time along the lines of, “I couldn’t homeschool because my kids would just drive me crazy!” While I do believe that the type of education children have is solely the parents’ choice and there is no “right for all” method, it saddens me that so many people just simply cannot stand to be with their children.

Shine August 24, 2011

“I couldn’t homeschool because my kids would just drive me crazy!”

Yes that comment really tugs at my heart 🙁 Romans 14 hits me that not everyone is meant to homeschool, however that flippant line seems like an easy answer to defend their choice of not homeschooling, even when defense is not needed. We humans take things so personally don’t we.

Shannon K August 15, 2011

I have to admit, when I was working I didn’t like my kids much. I didn’t know them enough to like them. Sure, I loved them to pieces, but I was A-okay with going to work every Saturday.
I remember one of the scariest parts of my decision to come home and homeschool our kids was realizing that I was going to be with my kids every.day. All day. All of the time.

What in the WORLD was I going to do with them every day?

Slowly, I learned who my children were. I realized that I have some pretty cool kids! Now, I wouldn’t trade my time with them for anything. I’m so very grateful that God has given me this second chance with my children.

char August 23, 2011

ME TOO!! I was one of those mom’s that said I could never homeschool because my kids would drive me crazy. Until I started researching homeschool for a friend and heard the clear voice of God that that was His will. It has been 4 years now and I would never go back!! My kids still drive me a little crazy at times 🙂 but not to the point that I would ever want to send them away for hours everyday. It saddens me now that I waisted too many years without them home!

Shine August 24, 2011

Good for you to listen to the voice of God for you!!! We never know where His will will lead us! Your years may not have been wasted in the work force as maybe God used that time to reach others around you and help you appreciate more what you have now being home. His perfect timing!

Sheila August 15, 2011

Sometimes I like getting back more on a schedule, but I miss my kids, and happily, I enjoy being with them. They are fun and interesting people to know. I don’t understand people that seem to want to just push them away.

bluecottonmemory August 15, 2011

My boys just might drive me a little nuts – and as their hormones surge, it might get not only a little stinky but a little punchy, too – I feel sad when they leave home to go to school. There are moments I don’t like – but I am always LOVING it! So glad you said this – I have been wanting to say this to other mothers for a long time!

Monica August 15, 2011

I absolutely L*O*V*E my kids but some times I just need me time. I hate that my kids have to attend public school. I know I don’t have many years left with them. My oldest is 19 and the youngest just turned 13. My heart aches for those children whose mother “can’t wait for them to be gone”. How, Why do mothers get that way?…

Jill August 15, 2011

I was just reading an article in the newspaper this morning with a similar “rejoicing.” And then recalling the many, many times I have heard similar comments from moms (christian and non-christian) and, sadly, christian speakers at a big christian conference.

You explained it all so well and convicted me in how I internally handle my frustration to these comments. Thanks!

Tara High August 15, 2011

This is so wonderfully put!! And I totally agree!! I am so thankful that I have my daughter with me all the time. And yes, at times I need a break, but I don’t ever want to push her off on someone else. I can always find something for her to do while I take a few minutes to refresh! Thank you for sharing! It is a great reminder of the blessing and responsibility God has given us!

Amy August 15, 2011

Kelly.. I’m just wondering what sort of programs are available for homeschooling? I know of Abeka, and ACE Christian Curriculum, but have been told that they are pricey. Since I am a stay at home Mom with one child who is kindergarten age, and two small children, I have been looking into different resources, but on a budget! I’d prefer a Christian based program (of course) but what is the best curriculum? Any advice? Oh… and yes… I love being with my children as well! 🙂 Thank You for the article, very inspiring … Amy 🙂

Lara August 23, 2011

Amy, please look at amblesideonline.org. It’s Charlotte Mason-based and most of the books can be found through your library or book sales. I don’t think there is a ‘best’ curriculum, but especially with young children, the ambleside site would be a great place to start! Good luck! (I’ve been homeschooling for 6.5 years and loving it [most days]!)

Shine August 24, 2011

Amy we love Little Hands to Heaven and all of Heart of Dakota Publishing’s Curriculm as well as Queen Home School Supply, Inc. Both Charlotte Mason style. You can find both of these resources on Ebay or sometimes on local Craigslist or your local homeschool groups selling them. The added “reading” books I get from the library (some through interlibrary loan) or our local right to life book sale or borrow from friends. I bought the entire curric the last few years from the publishers, this year I got smart and saved aprox $150! You can find a way!

Amelia Thompson August 15, 2011

Well I’m so glad that someone finally said it. I cringe inside every single time I hear a mom celebrate the return of their kids to school b/c they cannot wait to get them out of their hair! One of the many reasons I haven’t shipped our oldest off to preschool and am considering homeschooling our kids (at least for the first few years) is because I truly enjoy their company and cannot get enough of the JOY it is to be around them! Thank you for this article.

Suzanne August 15, 2011

I have heard the “back to school comments” too. It does make me sad to hear them. Having children from 28 down to 7, I can attest that the time with them is fleeting and this isn’t a dress rehearsal–no second chances to get it right. Yes, the church needs more Titus 2 mentors–but, they’re all at work!

Melinda August 16, 2011

Amen! I LOVE being around my kids- I’ve got 9 year old twins and a 5 year old. My boy has autism and can be very difficult, but I miss him during the school year. Thankfully, the school has allowed us to do an abbreviated schedule with him so he’s only there a few hours, instead of all day. I get to homeschool our girls, thank goodness! I feel so sorry for all of those children whose parents don’t really want them around…..

Melinda S August 16, 2011

I love this post. Having graduated both my children through homeschooling, I understand the ups and downs, physically and psychologically, of being there all the time. But it is something I would do again in a heart beat.

I remember years ago when my daughter was only 3 or so, listening to other mothers rant about summer coming and they’d have to be around the kids all the time. I actually went home and called my mom to ask her if she had felt that way. Her answer was so gracious, “No, honey, I chose to be a teacher so that I could be at home with you all when you were home”. And this from a woman who could have been a doctor she was so smart, but saw the value of having a family. She and my dad are gone now, but their legacy is a family of brothers and sisters who all like each other and like to be around each other.

Thank you for so clearly putting into words the value of choosing to be keepers of the home.

Rebecca August 16, 2011

Wow, this needs to be printed on the front page of every newspaper. I am getting so fed up with talking to moms that are so excited for their sweet little children to start preschool so they can have time to “get things done”. I have to bite my tongue so I don’t give them a piece of my mind! Don’t get me wrong I think preschool is wonderful and my son attended because he needed interact with other children. He enjoyed it and it was great for him. But I didn’t “send him off” so I could have some time to myself that is for sure!!
These seasons go by so fast, we are so blessed – we just need to slow down and enjoy it! Thanks again!

Marita August 16, 2011

Amy have you looked at http://www.Amblesideonline.org?
No such thing as best curriculum. Pick one that will work for you.
Blessings

apryl August 16, 2011

So glad to see someone say it like it is! Easily the top reason I hear from other moms as to why they could never home school is because “I could never stand to have my kids at home all day” or “we’d never get along”. That’s shocking and sad at the same time, yet I hear it over and over again. I always wonder why they had children if they don’t want to spend time with them or can’t get along with them? It’s definitely a challenge to spend all day long, everyday with anyone, but it just takes work like anything else. I consider these years a blessing – time flies very quickly and childhood is over in a fleeting moment. I enjoy having my boys home even as they begin middle school and high school now – there’s not a moment I regret!

Judy August 16, 2011

Everyone thinks their school is different and better. The fact remains that all Department of Education schools have consistent curricula that are anti-God, anti-Christian, anti-family, pro-gay, pro-Islam, pro-Darwin, etc.

Besides, I do not care how “good” a government school might be, children are meant to be nurtured and taught by their parents. Academics is not the end all for a good education (not that such achievement is not characteristically gained by home education because it often is). Children who spend the greater part of their days being taught an anti-Christian worldview more often than not adopt it as their own.

Sadly, the indoctrination is often not clearly seen in the younger years but rears its ugly head in middle school and high school. At which time parents, who have given over their God-given responsibilities, shake their heads and ask “where did I go wrong?” YOU put your children under the instruction and mentoring of someone else!

Dean Butterfield August 16, 2011

Well said!! Being able to disciple our kids effectively starts with actually WANTING to be around them. The word calls them blessings, yet we often treat them as if they are burdens. Thanks for having the courage to write this up. I’m gonna share it…

Christa August 16, 2011

I love this! There are so many times where I want to give in and just give my children what they want and to not discipline them because it would be so much easier. But I close my eyes and take a deep breath and remind myself that I’m raising these children to have respect and obedience. I think a lot of parents don’t see it that way and it’s frustrating.

Shine August 24, 2011

VERY TRUE! I just finished reading Habit Revisited by Mary E. Woodis and these few quotes struck me:

“You must make them (your children) realize that you love them enough, right now at this moment, to stop whatever you were doing and deal with their sin.”

I tended to want to finish my task if issues arrise and then get frustrated. Instead today I’ve stopped and dealt with the issues in a kind mannor and let me tell you our day has been so much smoother and joyful!!!

“Out of sheer ignorance of the power and implementation of habits, many of us have ignored the training that was needful and jumped into the discipline that follows untrained behavior. In doing so, we have done a disservice to our children and ourselves.”

I have dis serviced my girls by not taking the time to teach them good habits. They are very polite and kind especially out and about, but I haven’t taught obedience and attentiveness as I should, especially when we are alone in our home and discipline them when in fact it is my issue for not teaching them in the first place!

Mumkins August 16, 2011

Amy- http://WWW.heartofdakota.com Great affordable, Christian curriculum.

Kelly or anyone who knows. does that e-book have tips for older kids or is it just geared to younger?

Shine August 24, 2011

LOVE HOD!!!

Valerie August 16, 2011

Oh Kelly, only you can say this hard truth with so much grace. I think the same thing all the time. I see online debates rage about whether children are or are not blessings. Of course they are. AND they need to be TRAINED! Of course we are going to not enjoy time around untrained, disrespectful, disobedient little people. We should not be expected to, it’s not God’s plan! We might grit our teeth all day and exercise amazing self-control, but to be BLESSED by them, to ENJOY them, and to truly receive the REWARD that they are meant to be, we MUST TRAIN OUR CHILDREN! For their own good.

Seems you hit a nerve today. 🙂

Shine August 24, 2011

Just read Habit Revisited by Mary E. Woodis. So inspiring to train ourselves and our children in good habits! It is a lost art that would change so much of our daily frustrations with disobedience and discipline when training of good habits first will eliminate alot of those in a positive manner!

Jacqueline August 16, 2011

Maybe these mom enjoy their kids, but also enjoy some time to themselves. Nothing wrong with that.

Great post, though!

Henrietta August 16, 2011

I don’t think we should judge other mothers. Who knows what problems they may suffer? Maybe one has chronic back pain, maybe another has elderly parents to care for, maybe one has a child with severe special needs. Why wouldn’t they want some time to rest, recoup, revitalize? Why must we judge when we have not walked in another’s shoes?

Melissa September 4, 2011

There’s definitely a spectrum here. I have a chronic illness that medication doesn’t seem to touch. This year, with my oldest in kindergarten and 2 younger in a Christian preschool, I’ll get 2 mornings of 3 hours to work on my home, just doing the household stuff that I need to to keep my family going. I’m almost positive that we’ll homeschool at some point, and I love being with my children, but I need a few hours of time alone — not for Oprah-endorsed “me time” but for some down-deep family organizational time.

I also believe that many moms who are unduly gleeful at the prospect of sending their kids away are mostly uneducated in how things could be otherwise. Maybe they need help to see better patterns of discipline for their children so that they can create time for mutual enjoyment rather than constant nagging. Maybe they’re fearful of their ignorance, if they grew up in a home where self-discipline or homemaking was lacking or despised. Or they could be like I was for 3 years — getting less than 5 hours of interrupted sleep every single night due to factors completely out of my control. These sisters of ours need prayer from a discerning, loving heart, not judgment — but it’s a line that I have trouble discerning myself, even with my own illness issues that people can’t see, and I hope are not judging me for in return.

Charla August 16, 2011

It’s so wonderful to “hear” how much all you young moms love being with your children. If we can continue to have moms like you, there’s hope for this world. I too LOVED being with mine and wanted to cry when I’d hear others make comments about not enjoying time with theirs. I ADORE my grown children, but I often miss those days when they were small and still learning so much despite how challenging it was at time. God bless you all.

Tarena August 17, 2011

I disagree.

Kelly, I love your posts…but this one caught me a bit off guard and I thought I would share the struggle that some of us mamas might be going through.

I am a homeschooling mama of five young kiddos, but I don’t like one of my children. This is actually one of the reasons I am homeschooling. He is Active Alert and he is a very difficult child. I LOVE HIM TO PIECES…but I don’t often enjoy him. Others often judge that it is a matter of lack of parenting, or not correct Biblical values. I think people would be shocked to see how diligently and how hard we have had to work with him over the years.

His brain works differently. For example: when it isn’t working well he will still at times throw kicking and screaming tantrums…for HOURS. And he’s seven… No, I’m not kidding.

This is a sensitive topic as there are “closet” mamas out there that have to live with this or similar struggles each and every day. It is EXTREMELY difficult.

Thankfully, I know that others don’t understand if they haven’t been in my shoes having a “special child”, so it is easier for me to not let comments bother me.

Having this special needs child has actually come as a blessing in disguise…it has driven me to homeschool my kiddos, to seek an ABUNDANCE of wise advice (although it doesn’t often help this one child of ours) through parenting books, it has helped us to COMPLETLY change the way we eat as we are trying to heal his body (this has blessed us greatly!!), and we have been able to bless others that are hurting as they don’t know what to do with one of their children that just “slips through the cracks”.

I do love some of the points you made in this post, but I would just encourage you to be sensitive on this topic as many Christian moms are already pouring guilt on themselves for not having “obedient Christian children”.

Thank you for all the posts you do…I do truely love them!

(If anyone out there has a similar child and would like to be blessed, I wrote up some posts this spring dealing with the topic of being a mom to a child that you love but don’t like and how God can use it all for his Glory. http://www.laughingfamily.blogspot.com)

Lisa M August 23, 2011

Tarena,
I have a child with special needs so to a point I understand what you are saying and where you are coming from. I always say the Lord blessed us with our other son so I can know that I am not failing at this parenting thing. As frustrated as I get with my son I have never said I do not like him. When I am feeling frustrated I often go to the Lord in prayer and He shows me where I am wrong not my son. How I can change to handle things better. He knew what I needed my son to be so that I could be a better mom. He has used this child to change me in so many ways.
Recently, we splurged and went to get Chinese food with my mom (we are not full GAPS but no Gluten, GMO’s etc). Here is what my son’s fortune said “You need to live authentically, and you can not ignore that. ” I thought it was a powerful and appropriate for him.
I checked out your link and it takes you to the home page. Since there are no tags or subjects I did not find the article you mentioned.

Kelly August 23, 2011

Tarena,

I’m so sorry you’re struggling with this–that must be extremely difficult! Unfortunately, just like almost every subject about which I post, there are those exceptions that feel hurt about what I write. That’s not my intention. This post and many others are written to address a general attitude *unashamedly* admitted by mothers who simply don’t like to be with their children because they truly haven’t taken the time and because children hinder their agenda. It does NOT sound like you fit this category in the least!

Shine August 24, 2011

Tarena: I can understand not liking the actions made by any child. However I really hope that your child has never heard you say you love him but do not like him. Those words hurt even adults. I know as my own sister has said she loves me but does not like me, and that if we were merely friends we would not be any longer. Someday I pray that God will repair our relationship. I have forgiven her but it is hard to forget those hurtful words. They drudge up into my heart at such odd moments and it is nothing I would wish on a child, even if they were intentionally being disobedient.

It sound to me like you have a different situation. I have been one on one for special needs children, I commend parents who deal with struggles like those on a daily basis. I know my patience is tested daily with no special needs in my home. The exhaustion of dealing with special needs is different than simply wishing your children away so you can have “your” life back. And I reread that the author says “One of the reasons for not enjoying one’s children is the failure to teach them simple obedience and respect.” This is just one reason she is speculating may be the result of the negative feeling some parents have. Some tend to take things to such a personal level, don’t we? (RAISING MY HAND HIGH!!!!)

I read some of your blog and I”m encouraged to see you changing your entire families diet in hopes to help yourself and your child! It is NOT easy! I encourage you to continue on your journey, I have many friends (myself also) who have seen dramatic results in their children and selves with diet changes!

Kim B. August 17, 2011

Great post, Kelly! I couldn’t image NOT being with my two younger ones. We love homeschooling, teaching & training a Biblical worldview, & strengthening the family unite. I pray that our light would inspire & encourage younger moms. My husband & I are already seeing the fruit of training our children in obedience.
God bless!

Christin August 18, 2011

I agree with this, Kelly, and have you heard the news about business banning children because of their bad manners, lack of respect, and disobedience?
What has this generation done by failing to discipline and train their children? Made them socially unacceptable, that’s what.

Tarena, your situation is unique. I’m certain there are a handful of unique situations. But the majority of the issues do not match your unique situation.

It is a simple lack of discipline problem. Society scoffs at parents for disciplining, even threatening to take their children away.

Danielle M. August 18, 2011

“Yes, the church needs more Titus 2 mentors–but, they’re all at work!” EXACTLY. This is SO frustrating to me. Young moms DO NOT have enough help/ role models.

Judy, SO SO true. Exactly why you couldn’t pay me to put my kids in ( any) public school.

Henrietta August 18, 2011

Danielle,

Why should older moms be obligated to help younger ones? Why not older dads? Scripture commands older woman to advise young women, not do the work for them. I think you’ll be waiting a long time, if you are hoping for an older woman to come and wash your dishes.

HJR August 18, 2011

If you saw my second-grader rush off to hug her teacher this morning, you’d understand why I’m so happy when September roles around. She loves school!

Jb August 20, 2011

awww love that! we have several teachers at our school who will seek out our kiddos for thier back to school hugs at the open house and it warms my heart to know that the teacher loves and appreciates my children:)

Jb August 20, 2011

WOW! I do like my children, in fact I love each of them more than words can express. My 6 kids go to public school. They are happy,well adjusted,well mannered children who strive to love Jesus, does that make me a bad parent and kids you don’t want to be around?
Sad how we assume that kids who attend public school are somehow flawed by that and that their parents do not like or love them enough to homeschool. Whatever happened to parenting the way our Mighty Lord lays on each our hearts to parent and if that is public school, who is anyone to judge Gods plan for another family?

Cindy August 23, 2011

I don’t recall anybody saying that ALL ps parents are like that. Touchy, much?

Megan August 26, 2011

Of course that is what Kelly was saying. She was saying that parents of public school kids don’t like to be with their kids,and so send them away to school instead of dealing with their behavioral issues.

With all due respect as a sister of Christ, I felt your response (“Touchy, much?”) was not Christlike at all. Why would her differing opinion be seen as “touchy”? And is it Christian to speak that way to a fellow sinner?

Blessings to you!

Shine August 24, 2011

I don’t think the point of the article was homeschool vs public school. At least that’s not how it read to me. I believe it was more meant that when we DO have time with our children we should not wish them away and that if we do maybe it is an issue of lack of good habits in our children, in our own lives or lack of priorities that create the negative attitude we feel. I believe this was just the example the writer was using as school is starting up and it’s what’s being said. Sadly I do know some who choose public school or daycare or aftercare or summer programs soley so they are away from their children. That breaks my heart. But I do not believe every public school choice family feels this. I as a homeschooled mom don’t like to be stereotyped so have the same respect to public school mamas. Romans 14 speaks clear that not everyone is meant to homeschool.

JBS August 20, 2011

We are from a little country town where we have a little country school. I am there during the daymore often than not. Our teachers are christian as well as the principal. I am thankful that I can send them to such a school. However, when the end of summer rolls around I am very sad to see them go off to school, yet thankful for another year for them to get a good education, have a chance to make a difference in the lives of their peers, and grow! I say whatever you decide, homeschooling or public school, make sure you are a big part of their education. Make sure you know who is teachinging them, and make sure you know who their peers are. Because yes we get one chance to raise them. Do not take it for granted…give them the best mother you can.

Angela August 23, 2011

I think it would b awesome if instead of judging those moms who r in that mindset to stop and pray ( and I mean genuinely) for the Holy Spirit to speak truth to them- probably most of them already feel defeated and a failure. Especially IF there was no example for them to follow! Wouldnt it b awesome if the “older woman” would do what they r called to do and come along side the younger woman! I’ve seen many broken woman who desire to love their children but aren’t sure how that looks. Rise up older women and find a younger mom and mentor them in complete love- let’s change this generation by not only example but by being active in some young moms life! Bless u for challenging us to be like Christ and walk in His ways! Our kids r worth that!

Shine August 24, 2011

Stopping to pray for them! Why is it we always try to bypass this important step! It changes our hearts as well!

Cindy August 23, 2011

Oh, I do like my children! I was just thinking how sad it is that parents are so happy to see them go to school every year, and so miserable to see them come home. These years are so short, and there’s so much fun to be had! At the beginning of summer I wrote a really snarky post for Baby Center about how much parents seem to dislike their children. Then I deleted it (because they really wouldn’t have published that, and I don’t think snark is the best way to do these things) and started over with 7 reasons people’s kids drive them crazy. Hint: It’s never the kids’ fault. I think it’s selfishness and narcissism. They just don’t want the kids cluttering up their lives with all that boring, messy, annoying kid stuff.

Notweasry August 23, 2011

I LOVE my children! Sometime I am overcome with emotion on how blessed and privileged I am to have them…I have participated with God in His creation of these wonderful people who will live forever, and meanwhile, who are impacting those around them. I have homeschooled/am homeschooling the 10 of them, from ages 30 (missionary in Haiti) to age 7. Six of them are adults and I could not have spent my life in any better way then raising these precious miracles for God.

Notweasry August 23, 2011

The name is “Notweary” and not “Notwearsy” (typo.)

Harmony August 23, 2011

I just had this conversation with my children this morning! As we talked about their neighborhood friends leaving for school, we wound up sharing how much we simply love being together. The longer I mother them, the more I enjoy who they are.

Heather A September 28, 2011

There are some things that really grate on my nerves and this is one of them. You see this a lot on facebook in particular. Lets just for one moment step out of our selfishness and imagine how it feels to be the child. Who will read the posts because they are allowed to break the facebook rules and have an account even though they are not 18 years old. Who will feel the tension and subsequent lightheartedness of a mother who doesn’t want them around. Who feels like a burden. What behavior does this encourage – I say it causes one of 2 reactions, a child who is depressed and defeated or a child who is attention seeking and aggressive. Sad, sad, sad!

Karen March 28, 2012

Hi! I just read the book, Getting your children to obey, and I love, love it! My problem is what if the grandparents spoil the kids and let them break the rules….how do I deal with that?

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