Are You Feeling Overwhelmed?

by Rhonda on March 3, 2011 in Inspiration in Child Rearing


As a mother with small children, life can get very hectic, can’t it?  Mine are older now so things run a little more smoothly with their help, but I still remember what it was like to have three under five after having an only child for eleven years.  Let’s just say it was a real learning curve! One of my thoughts when things seemed to be out of control was “I just can’t take another thing!” Ever find yourself there?

I learned the key to conquering those feelings was what was happening between my ears………..in my mind.  You see that’s where the battle is won or lost. What we think determines what we do. There is a reason that scripture says we are to be renewed in our minds; to fill our hearts with scripture that our way may be preserved, that we might walk in truth. I began to learn that when I let my heart/mind play lies over and over again like, “I just can’t take this” or “I don’t feel like doing anything today”–that would lead to wrong actions/responses on my part. But when I meditated on the truth of God’s Word that in Him I can do all things and that He promised never to give me more than I can bear, victory was mine!

Studies have also shown that people who don’t live by a routine are more prone to depression.  When someone goes out to a job, she has a boss telling her what she will do.  As homemakers, we have to manage or “boss” ourselves so one of the best things you can do is make up a schedule and stick to it, regardless of how you feel. We can become haphazard, living in a state of inaction because we “don’t feel” like doing anything. Repeating this scenario over and over can lead to laziness, which then spirals into “out of control” living and feelings of being overwhelmed and depressed.  But as you do what is right, you will feel right.

Now, there are times there is a physical cause for the way you feel~at those times we may just need to lower our expectations, get extra help, or cut back on activity. We may have unique times, as women, when we don’t feel well or are more prone to discouragement, but it cannot become an excuse to sin. Jesus suffered great torture on the cross and yet did not give in to sin.  He is our example so we can, by His grace, suffer without sinning. Many times we fret over the future but we mustn’t look ahead and give way to feelings of panic, but rather rest in His care and grace for each day. He promises to be with you and not lay on you more than you can bear. The Psalmist David said it best, “Why are you cast down, oh my soul, trust in the Lord and wait patiently for Him.”

~Posted by Rhonda @ walkingwithsarah.blogspot.com

Rhonda

Rhonda and Herb have been married for 28 years and together they have four children, aged 27-13. Herb is a certified nouthetic counselor through NANC, which provides many opportunities to see marriages and families strengthened for the glory of God. Their family is currently involved in planting a family integrated church in Northwest Indiana. Rhonda seeks to encourage women in their roles as wives and mothers through mentoring and writing. She blogs at WalkingwithSarah.com.

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Lecia March 3, 2011

WONDERFUL post!! Thank you for sharing this. The battle really does begin in our minds.

Miko's Girl March 3, 2011

I so needed to hear these words today. Thank you!

Momofthree March 3, 2011

This was exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you.

stephanie March 3, 2011

As homeschooling mother of three young children I needed this post today. It’s been one of those weeks. Thanks!

Rambling Heather March 3, 2011

Exactly where I needed to be this morning, thank you for posting this!

Jessalyn March 3, 2011

The “between your ears thoughts” are so true. I struggle the most with this kind of thing in those middle of the night hours when baby is up with a cold or just doesn’t want to sleep. Those are the times I have to remind myself that it is an honor to be up with my precious little ones.

Also, the routine is very true, the days when I plan and stick to the plan I “feel” so much more peaceful and joyful.

Thanks for the reminders!

Shannon March 3, 2011

Amen! I have noticed that when I work off of a “To do” list — for both house work and our homeschooling, life just runs a lot better. It’s making myself make the “to do” list that’s difficult!

I Live in an Antbed March 3, 2011

So much wisdom here!! I have been saying these things to a dear young mother who is struggling with exactly what you describe here. Thank you for exhorting the Body!

Lisa March 3, 2011

Thank you for speaking to my heart this morning. This is just what I needed to hear.

Tera Bare March 3, 2011

How true! Just what I needed today!

Hannah March 3, 2011

Two thumbs up! Thank you.

Katie Epperson March 3, 2011

Thank you very much for posting this! I am a mother of 3. Ages 8,6, and 4mo. old. I run a small business from home and have no outside help. I find myself feeling overwhelmed ALL the time! I do not like this feeling! Thank you again for posting this, it has spoken to my heart!

Bonnie March 3, 2011

I needed to read this today! Thanks!

Joy March 3, 2011

This was such a great post, and so encouraging! Thank you so much for sharing this wisdom, Rhonda!

Charity March 3, 2011

As a mommy of three littles, due in a few weeks with our fourth blessing, I have been battling those overwhelming feelings the last few weeks. I keep hearing from everyone, whether they know me or not, that I won’t be able to “handle it” when the baby arrives. Having four children in right at five years isn’t going to be easy I’m sure, but listening to negativity and beginning to believe those things myself will make things very miserable. We are SO blessed and I am determined to not let others’ comments steal my joy! Thank you for these encouraging words today.

Vindiciti March 3, 2011

Thank you for this wonderful, encouraging post! I really needed to hear this. Even when physical issues get in the way, it’s important to do as much as I can do without causing further damage/injury/ect. so I keep my heart in the right place. It’s so easy to just sit and do nothing instead when my heart gets there and even use injury/sickness/ect. as an excuse to really do absolutely nothing.

Christine Gibson March 3, 2011

Yes, yes, yes!!! The baby was up all night and we had to leave a homeschool fieldtrip early because my three year old was being a three year old. I am now getting off the couch and back to it…thank you!!!

Mandy March 3, 2011

Great post with much wisdom…I’m struggling with making a schedule that works right now, but I’m still working on it. I agree with Charity. You have to turn on your selective hearing when in company of negative thinkers…love them, but don’t take to heart ‘their’ fears, insecurities, or past failures. I’m due in August with our 4th tiny and we are super excited! We have a 3, 2, and 1 year old, one of whom we adopted, so it’s already crazy! =) God has richly blessed our family!

Mrs. June Fuentes March 3, 2011

Excellent post, Rhonda. Shared it on the Wise Woman fan page!

Erica March 3, 2011

This post describes me almost perfectly! I struggle so much with “feeling like doing nothing”. I try to implement schedules or rotines but I don’t stick with it very long. I think the reason I fail is like you said, the battle in my mind. I listen to the lies and don’t listen to God’s word.

Jenny March 3, 2011

Tou for this post. I am just a few weeks away from delivery of my 7th (11th counting miscarriages) baby. My oldest is 13. It is getting easier. But, I struggle with depression, which I do believe is physical. But, I always need to be reminded to “trust God and do the next thing”. It is easy to spiral downward. Thank you for reminding us to look upward. This is the heart of my blog as well.

Erin @ It's Grace March 3, 2011

I really, really needed this today…thank you so much.

Karen March 3, 2011

I just have to leave a comment to tell you how much this post meant to me today. My husband and I both feel “at the end of our rope”. Our twin daugters are 2 months old, a beautiful addition to three boys – twin boys who are 3, and a 21 month old. Yup, 5 kids in 39 months! Overwhelmed pretty much fits the bill! I’m fighting fatigue, dirty floors and energetic little boys who just don’t know how to sit still for 5 seconds, and Satan is using it to get the best of my spiritual strength as well. Thanks for encouraging me to pick up my Bible before I pick up my broom. His strength is and will always be made perfect in my weakness. I needed to be reminded of that!!

Christin March 3, 2011

This was just perfect! I totally agree and thank you for graciously piecing the words together! 🙂

Sandy March 3, 2011

Boys can b home makers too

Lobug March 3, 2011

Wow, that was so totally encouraging to me today. Thank you for sharing that.

Amanda A Sweet Life Rocks March 4, 2011

So encouraging, thank you!

Andrea March 4, 2011

Encouraging post. I homeschool our six children, ages 13, 8, 7, 5, 20 months and 5 months. It helps me to remember that it is a gift that I am blessed to be their mother..that I am charged with the high calling of wife and mother. Raising little ones to know Jesus is the greatest gift.

I also try to focus on generations before me. Women had few to no modern conveniences until quite recently in our history. Due to their perseverance, focus and how seriously they took the role, rather than elevating themselves, they were, in general, successful wives and mothers.

Today so many are bogged down with busyness, because it is a distraction from the blessing of work that needs to be done in the home. A clear focus is needed, and it comes with prayer and submission…being organized and having a flexible schedule is a must for me!

God Bless!

Lucretia March 4, 2011

Thank you for sharing this post. I can personally say this is something the Lord has been teaching me this past year.

Lori March 4, 2011

I couldn’t agree more. I have been trying to teach my children this concept of contentment, and that our attitude is everything.

My Love From Home March 4, 2011

I absolutely agree. I’m learning as I go, and I have found that scheduling is a huge help in managing my home and my mind! 🙂

Mama Bear March 5, 2011

Excellent post! Women who are past child-rearing and their families have spread all over the world can fall out of healthy routines and become depressed.

Katie @ Imperfect People March 5, 2011

WONDERFUL encouagment. Thank you for this post

Stephanie March 6, 2011

This is so true!
Thanks for this encouraging post! I ‘ve three children between 7 years and 20 months and it was so helpfull to read.

Anne Belley March 7, 2011

Thank you for the encouragement! It was exactly what I needed to hear this morning. With nine children at home, even though some are older, sometimes it is hard to get everything done. Not only did I feel sympathy from Jasmine, I was exhorted to look to Christ, instead of feeling down because I am weary, and exhorted to ask the King what HE would have this servant do. So often the tasks which make us tired are not even what we are called to do, but, rather, self-imposed duties or activities that are often OUTSIDE of the realm where God would have us working. Another error is to not live according to priorities, but by the “tyranny of the urgent.” God does equip up for whatever He calls us to do. Thanks again!

Donna @ Comin' Home March 7, 2011

What a great post! It’s so true too. I was just writing about the need to renew our minds so that we don’t end up wallowing in despair when things aren’t going well. So important!

lauren March 8, 2011

This couldn’t of come at a better time! This week has been horribly overwhelming! I was so excited to read through this post and I definitely feel better already! Thank you!

Cindy March 10, 2011

This is me! I need a schedule of some sort, b/c we aren’t getting it done, and it (the housework and schooling) is weighing on my mind. I just don’t know where to start anymore.

Tracy August 7, 2011

Thank you for telling what we may not want to hear! As a Christian it is so hard to wait patiently when you feel like your are swabbing the deck and not going anywhere on your “life ship.” I struggled with a hormone issue and for a year denied it telling myself that I just needed to pray more, sing more, schedule more and stapled “I respect my husband for” and verses all over my house. Now that I have been able to get my hormones under control naturally, I can read your post with delight!!!

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