I can remember being five and telling my mother that all I wanted to do in life was stay home and be a mom. She explained to me that all young women need an education so they can have a career, “just in case.” So that is how I lived my life, always expecting to be a working mother.
Nearly twenty years ago we started our homeschooling adventure. Through going to conferences and meeting other homsechoolers we were exposed to many new ideas which gave us a new vision for how we wanted to raise our daughters. I began to pray about the different ways that I could train our daughters to be women whose future families would arise and call them blessed. During these early years we had many struggles to overcome. I had two miscarriages, three babies in three years, several moves, and Sarah, our second, had issues with seizures that took us several years to control. Many days left me feeling like an utter failure. I questioned whether my children would be taught enough or have the necessary homemaking skills.
As I been to see fruit, I began to realize that it wasn’t about a system or method. No secret formula was going to make my girls turn out the way we wanted. It was about trusting in God’s character to overcome my short comings and failures. I realized I didn’t have the capability to make my girls Godly young women. Only God had that ability. My job was to have faith, and to train up my daughters in His way.
As we have gone through the years I have made many mistakes, but I have tried to be transparent with the girls about them. While I have high standards for work and we strive to do things to the best of our ability, things don’t always work out the way we desire. It has been important to teach them how to respond with a Godly attitude when things don’t go according to plan. When things work out just like we want, it’s easy to respond appropriately. It is when we meet with adversity that our true character shines through.
This spring we were blessed when our oldest daughter, Lindsay, was married. It was a day we had worked toward and prayed about for 25 years. God has been merciful in allowing me to see that though I have many failings and didn’t do everything just right, He is faithful. He is in control of the outcome and always has been, whether I recognized it or not. As mothers we often feel like the success or failure of our daughters depends on us. We are the ones who are charged with training them to be keepers at home and we often bear burdens that are much heavier than our shoulders were meant to bear. We need to be placing our burdens at the foot of the cross, trusting in God’s faithfulness, not our own.
Lora is the wife of 26 years to Gene and the mother of 5 daughters who range in age from 14 to 25. This fall she will be entering her 20th year homeschooling. She is a self taught homemaker who has had many shortcomings to overcome. Her desire is to raise Godly daughters that will be called blessed by their future husbands and children. She loves to encourage women to love their husbands, their children, and their role as homemakers. She enjoys gardening, reading, photography, and writing; though she isn’t able to devote the time to them that she would like. She writes at My Simple Life and Keeth Family Homemaking.