When I was young, growing up in a Christian home, I had very distinct views on how I would raise my children. I had convictions and standards, goals and vision, and that was good.

We had a perfect courtship so it started off well. And I just knew we were going to thrive as parents! In my head and in my mind, parenting seemed so clear, so tidy. It was all very clean, and if I followed steps 1, 2 and 3 then of course the result would be a happy home filled with love for Jesus.

But I forgot one thing, one very important thing, that was that every single little person that I would bring into this world, every tiny human that we welcomed into our arms– was a sinner. And 10 sinners in one house together is not always tidy and neat. Oh, it can be if things aren’t dealt with and all is swept under the rug, if we in military fashion command our households without thoughts for the heart, if our focus is on keeping up appearances instead of true heart religion it might not get down and dirty messy and might appear ordered and restful.

For many years I sought to keep that tidy and neat Christian look, that “we have everything together” appearance, with smiles on our faces and hoping the children would behave up to our standards when they were out in public. The problem is that I wanted my home run well because it felt good to me. I love control, I love order, so when I was wanting obedience from my children much of it was for my own comfort, instead of the glory of God.

But, what if messiness brings Him glory? What if it brings Him glory for there to be trials, temptations, hard mistakes that bring the fruit of repentance and righteousness.

And then it began to hit me.

Parenthood is messy.

Parenthood is not always walking in the park, pushing our strollers with our baby dolls or going on nature hunts and bird watches, returning with cheerful attitudes to do the evening chores. It is not always having my children matching with every hair in place. It is changing diapers, mopping muddy floors, holding back your daughter’s hair as she loses her dinner because of a stomach bug. Parenting involves morning sickness, fatigue and sometimes chronic illness. Yes, parenthood is messy, physically for sure.

But parenthood is messy especially spiritually. It is getting down and dirty with heart work. It is filling our children’s waterpots spiritually. It is wiping away angry tears from a child’s face and getting on your knees to explain how they need to respond in obedience to the Lord. It is sitting on the bed with a teenager late into the night working through relationship issues. It is having a listening ear when there are 5 other things pulling at you at the same time. It is being short and irritable with your family and having to go back to ask forgiveness. It is praying together, laughing together, and yes, crying together.

Sometimes in our house there can be a lot of intense discussions. We have issues to work through between each other and instead of sweeping things under the rug for the sake of “cleanliness” we are not resting until relationships and hearts are restored, because true relationships take work, rolling up your sleeves and digging in kind of work. This is the sweaty, deep fatigue, emotional and yet very spiritual side of parenting. Sometimes the greatest work for our children is on our knees before the Lord.

I had this view that my home would run like a little military where my little minions would follow my every order, but I forgot these are little people with feelings, hearts, emotions and most importantly souls. Their fears, thoughts, worries and cares must be listened to and comforted. Their souls must be nourished by the word of God and brought along with patience, tenderness and yes, firmness when necessary. Their desires, thoughts, questions, and needs have to be attended to.

So if you come to my house it will look far different from the way I would have envisioned it when I held my first son in my arms. But, I hope you will find sincerity in clinging to King Jesus and a readiness for true heartwork as we continue on this journey of parenting.

 

 

Jenny is the happy wife of Steve and mama to 8 children- ages 19 down to 4. 
She loves to encourage other mothers in their high calling over at amothersheritage.com
After many years of chronic illness, she is now a mompreneur –
in their family business with a heart to help others with their health.
You can email her at sandjervin@gmail.com

June Fuentes

June Fuentes is the happy wife to Steve and blessed homeschooling mother to eight beautiful children that they are raising for the Lord. She has a heart to see mothers all around the world grasp the vision of biblical motherhood and to see this noble role restored in the 21st century to the glory of God. June strongly believes that weak homes equate a weak nation and therefore blogs at A Wise Woman Builds Her Home to minister to Christian women on how to build up strong Christian homes. She is also the owner of Raising Homemakers, and is the author of the encouraging eBooks, True Christian Motherhood and How to Build a Strong Christian Home. She is the founder of Wise Woman Consulting, her service to teach women how to successfully make money blogging at home and a consultant for Lilla Rose, where you can find unique and beautiful hair products. She would love for you to join her on the journey to biblical womanhood on Facebook and Twitter at @wisewomanbuilds.

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You may have noticed that I’ve been missing from the Raising Homemakers blog for a while. To tell you the truth, I’ve been struggling a lot with writing here. The thoughts that keep going through my mind revolve around “I don’t have anything to say. Why would anyone care what I’m doing or what I think? My life is such a mess, why would anyone listen to me? I can’t keep it together right now, so how can I tell anyone anything?”

At some point this month, I came to the realization that sometimes you don’t have to say anything. Sometimes a person just needs someone to listen to them, not to give them advice necessarily, but just to nod in agreement and offer the words, “I’ve been there too”. Or, “I don’t know what the answer is, but I understand and I am praying for you.”

So let me encourage you, that when you feel like you have no ability to offer advice to someone, sometimes the words “I understand” can mean so much. And you don’t have to be perfect or have the answer to come alongside someone and say, “I understand”.

And to the overwhelmed Mama who feels like the colds will never go away, the kitchen will never be clean, who keeps missing deadlines, who struggles with a child’s attitude every day, who (when she get’s a rare afternoon “off”) scrambles in a daze trying to get caught up on everything – well, I don’t have any advice for you. But, I UNDERSTAND <3

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Chelsea is wife to Jon, a fireman, and Mama to three energetic little boys. After both having been homeschooled, Chelsea and Jon are now embarking on homeschooling their children as well as starting their family homestead. She also is owner of Chelsea Michal Designs and a custom longarm quilting service. You can see her work and follow along with all her crafting and homesteading adventures at her blog on Facebook and Instagram.

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We are into the season of Lent and Easter is just a little over three weeks away. The birth of our first grandchild Gavin five weeks ago has resulted in me remember all of the things we used to do as a family when our kids were little. One of my fondest memories is coloring eggs with them during the week leading up to Easter. They loved the time they got to spend with me with me almost as much as I did. After the annual egg hunt and Easter service on Sunday morning I would make deviled eggs to serve with our Easter dinner.

In the past I always purchased the store bought egg coloring kits. However, it always seemed to me that you were really just paying for packaging. And no matter how long I left the eggs soaking in the vinegar, they just wouldn’t get any darker. This led me to try to discover new ways of coloring Easter Eggs and I came up with not only a way that offers a wide variety colors, but one that is very unique. Today I am going to share my discover with you on how to color eggs at home with Kool-Aid. It’s very easy and offers a unique assortment of colors. And besides that, it takes very little time and smells really amazing. So let’s get started.

Supplies:

Variety of Kool-Aid flavor packets (non-sweetened)

10 oz. or larger cups or coffee mugs (one for each color, large enough to hold 2/3 cup water plus an egg)

Cool water

Plates or trays to dry colored eggs on

Paper towels

Protective coverings for work surface

Coloring the Eggs:

You will need to start with hard boiled eggs (as a bonus tip, this link will show you an easy way to hard boil eggs that won’t leave the center yolk a yucky green-ish color).

Second, you want to choose what colors you want to color your eggs. I chose an assortment of Kool-Aid flavors including grape, peach mango, cherry, watermelon, tropical punch, orange, green apple, lemonade, and blue raspberry lemonade. I guarantee not many other moms had eggs these colors. You will also need one 10 oz. or greater cup for each color you have chosen (larger coffees mugs and juice glasses work very well, just make sure have a wide enough rim to easily add and remove the eggs and that the water won’t overflow when you put the eggs in).

Once you’ve chosen your colors of Kool-Aid packets, pour 2/3 cup cool water into each cup and add one packet of Kool-Aid to each and stir well.

Next, place a cooled hard-boiled egg into each cup and let sit for 10-15 minutes. The length of time you leave the egg in the water will determine how light or dark the color of the egg will be. With a little practice you will be able to determine how long to let each egg sit to achieve your desired color (don’t try to check the color of an egg while it is being dyed because this will chip the color off and result in uneven coloring). Once an egg has been in the cup for the time required for your perfect color, carefully remove it and place it on a plate lined with a paper towel to dry. Make sure the eggs have completely dried before handling and storing them (it will take between 15 and 30 minutes for them to dry).

Voila’, beautifully colored Easter eggs.

A couple of thinks to keep in mind. First, cover your counter top or table to protect it from in case any of the Kool-Aid is accidentally spilled. Since the Kool-Aid is concentrated it will definitely stain surfaces, especially lighter ones. Second, a reminder to not “check” your eggs as they dye because this will chip the color off in the process. And third, have fun sharing this experience with your kids!

I hope you have a wonderful week and a Blessed Easter.

Anna

Anna Taylor

Anna is the devoted wife and helpmate to her beloved husband Dr. Robert Taylor. Having always loved the Proverbs 31 woman, she felt her calling to be a stay-at-home mother to their four children. Though she and her husband are now empty nesters, Anna still enjoys being there for her children just as she was when they lived at home. She has a heart for God and is strong in her faith as a Christian. She used her skills for homemaking and frugality to raise their children and now uses those same skills to be a blessing to others through her blog. Anna also practices the art of hospitality and enjoys cooking and sharing her faith to feed the body as well as the soul. Her hobbies include crafting, gardening, fitness and photography, and she can be found at The Joyful Wife or on Face Book.

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June Fuentes is the happy wife to Steve and blessed homeschooling mother to eight beautiful children that they are raising for the Lord. She has a heart to see mothers all around the world grasp the vision of biblical motherhood and to see this noble role restored in the 21st century to the glory of God. June strongly believes that weak homes equate a weak nation and therefore blogs at A Wise Woman Builds Her Home to minister to Christian women on how to build up strong Christian homes. She is also the owner of Raising Homemakers, and is the author of the encouraging eBooks, True Christian Motherhood and How to Build a Strong Christian Home. She is the founder of Wise Woman Consulting, her service to teach women how to successfully make money blogging at home and a consultant for Lilla Rose, where you can find unique and beautiful hair products. She would love for you to join her on the journey to biblical womanhood on Facebook and Twitter at @wisewomanbuilds.

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When the weather begins to warm and the sun comes out of hibernation, I want to be outside soaking it up and so do my kids.

I love sending the girls outdoors to work out that energy, fill up on Vitamin D, and get a little (okay, a lot) dirty. They are always happier, and more tired at bedtime, after a few hours of romping around the yard.

However, life goes on and dinner still needs to be made, laundry washed, and a myriad of other chores completed. I can’t always leave my kids to fend for themselves in the backyard, so I have learned to take my chores outdoors in order to allow my children hours of outdoor play time, while still accomplishing necessary tasks.

Scripture tells us that, “Through laziness, the rafters sag; because of idle hands, the house leaks.” (Ecclesiastes 10:18). So, where is the balance? If my children want to spend multiple hours outdoors, what can I do to maintain a productive spirit and keep my home running smoothly?

Here are some of my favorite ways to enjoy the outdoors while still accomplishing household tasks:

1. Laundry: Bring clean laundry outside to fold or sort. I use the patio table for this and then place all of the folded stacks back into the basket to be put away in their respective places once I am back inside.

2. Meal Prep: Chopping or peeling vegetables or rolling dough into rolls can easily done while at an outside table. We also often eat lunch and dinner outdoors to give the children more time in the fresh air during warm weather.

3. Organizing: Need to declutter? Bring a drawer or basket out to the yard and go through the items as you watch your kids play. Bring a trash bag with you to help sort the items.

4. Relax: We have the yard set up well for sand box play, mud kitchen play, bikes, and more. This allows my kids to play safely and self-sufficiently, which means that I can sometimes even read or do a bit of Bible study while they play! Sometimes I may even take the time to send a few e-mails or pay a few bills. This can also be a great time to write notes, letters, or thank you cards to friends.

5: Exercise: Lunges, push ups, calf raises, and stretches are easy exercises to do in the yard. With so many little ones at home, regular exercise has been difficult for me, but outdoor time is the perfect opportunity for me to start a simple and brief workout routine.

6: Outdoor Chores: This is the most obvious option. I save these chores for when the kids play. I feed the chickens or bunny, rake, water plants, pull weeds, organize outdoor toys, purge the shed, and more!

Fling open the windows and the doors. Head outside to soak in the Vitmain D and to let those kids explore and use up their energy. Now, you can do so without feeling guilty of idleness as you keep track of your brood in the great outdoors.

Ephesians 5:15-16 Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil.

 

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Jenny is a wanna-be homesteader living in California with her husband, 3 daughters (and a baby on the way). She enjoys raising suburban chickens, baking bread, homeschooling her children, and adventuring in the outdoors. Her family is committed to living small in square footage, but living large and full lives!

June Fuentes

June Fuentes is the happy wife to Steve and blessed homeschooling mother to eight beautiful children that they are raising for the Lord. She has a heart to see mothers all around the world grasp the vision of biblical motherhood and to see this noble role restored in the 21st century to the glory of God. June strongly believes that weak homes equate a weak nation and therefore blogs at A Wise Woman Builds Her Home to minister to Christian women on how to build up strong Christian homes. She is also the owner of Raising Homemakers, and is the author of the encouraging eBooks, True Christian Motherhood and How to Build a Strong Christian Home. She is the founder of Wise Woman Consulting, her service to teach women how to successfully make money blogging at home and a consultant for Lilla Rose, where you can find unique and beautiful hair products. She would love for you to join her on the journey to biblical womanhood on Facebook and Twitter at @wisewomanbuilds.

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June Fuentes

June Fuentes is the happy wife to Steve and blessed homeschooling mother to eight beautiful children that they are raising for the Lord. She has a heart to see mothers all around the world grasp the vision of biblical motherhood and to see this noble role restored in the 21st century to the glory of God. June strongly believes that weak homes equate a weak nation and therefore blogs at A Wise Woman Builds Her Home to minister to Christian women on how to build up strong Christian homes. She is also the owner of Raising Homemakers, and is the author of the encouraging eBooks, True Christian Motherhood and How to Build a Strong Christian Home. She is the founder of Wise Woman Consulting, her service to teach women how to successfully make money blogging at home and a consultant for Lilla Rose, where you can find unique and beautiful hair products. She would love for you to join her on the journey to biblical womanhood on Facebook and Twitter at @wisewomanbuilds.

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by June Fuentes March 15, 2017

There are so many beautiful things about homemaking . . . and right here is the perfect place for us to encourage one another in this beautiful calling! We’d love for you to share a post or article from your blog about homemaking, whether it be about cleaning, character, cooking, etc. But before we continue […]

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by June Fuentes March 13, 2017

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