My oldest son, about five years old at the time, ran towards me wild-eyed and screaming. 

“Mommy! Mommy!!! Help me!”

Twenty yards or so spanned the distance between us, but it felt like two thousand yards.  I stretched out my arms to him and he collapsed into them, sobbing.

“He was hitting me, Mommy! And he threw a stick at me! It hit me in the head!”

I already knew what had happened; I’d seen it all from the kitchen window. Still, I let him continue to talk as I rubbed his head and held him close, my heart breaking that a mere five year old child could feel so much distress over a situation he didn’t have much control over.

Then, with earnest eyes, he looks up at me. “Mommy, next time you hear me screaming like that, you have to come right away, alright? Don’t wait. Come as fast as you can. I was calling for you, and…”

I hugged him tightly and whispered in his ear, “I did come right away! I heard you calling! It took me a minute get from the kitchen to the back door, honey, but I came as fast as I could.”

“But Mommy, I was calling you…and you weren’t there…”

Sometimes, in my naivety, I have conversations like that with God.

“God, I was calling You, and You weren’t there!”

“God, I needed Your help! Where were You?!”

“Why didn’t You come right away when I called?”

And then I collapse in His arms and He wraps His arms around me, speaking these words into my heart:

”Even to your old age and gray hairs I am He, I am He who will sustain you. I have made you and I will carry you; I will sustain you and I will rescue you.” Isaiah 46:4

He is my Sustainer when I’ve done all I know to do.

He is my Rescuer when I am wild-eyed and frightened.

He is the One Who carries me when I’ve fallen at His feet.

And I am reminded that, despite His perceived silence at times ~ despite my absolute blindness at times ~ He is always there, always at work for my ultimate good.

Have you ever had those conversations with God?

 

Jaime, a pastor’s wife and homeschool mom, is one of the new monthly contributors for the Raising Sons corner.  She shares about simple living, homemaking, and whole foods on her blog, Like a Bubbling Brook.  She is passionate about nurturing her family, living intentionally, and being debt-free. 

Don’t forget to join her and five other bloggers for the Love Around The Block Facebook Party next month!  There will be great fellowship, inspiration, and many generous prizes from Vision Forum, Accordance Bible Software, DaySpring, and more.  It’s all free and we’d love to have you there!

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Jaime, a pastor's wife and homeschool mom, shares about simple living, homemaking, and healthy cooking on her blog, Like a Bubbling Brook. She is passionate about nurturing her family, living intentionally, and being debt-free.

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Today we have a guest post by Lauren of A Corner Pillar…

Have you ever paused and wondered how much homemakers would be worth if all of their work was equated to a dollar value?  I came across an interesting read on two of my sweet friends’ blogs today (you can visit their blogs here and here).  I have added some thoughts of my own at the end.  :)

How Much is a Homemaker Worth?

“The life of a homemaker is one that includes an endless amount of demands and to-dos. Depending on the size of the home and family, the position of homemaker can go well beyond the usual nine to five. We examined some of the tasks that a homemaker might do to find out how much his or her services would net as individual professional careers. We only take into consideration tasks which have monetary values and use the lowest value for each calculation.

Private Chef – Meal preparation is one of the major tasks of most homemakers. From breakfast to dinner, there is plenty of meal planning and cooking to be done. The American Personal Chef Association reports that its personal chefs make $200 to $500 a day. Grocery shopping is another chore that needs to be factored in. A homemaker must drive to the supermarket, purchase the food and deliver it to the home. Grocery delivery services charge a delivery fee of $5 to $10.
Total cost for services: $1,005 per five day work week x 52 weeks = $52,260 per year.

House Cleaner – A clean and tidy home is the foundation of an efficient household. Typical cleaning duties include vacuuming, dusting, sweeping, scrubbing sinks as well as loading the dishwasher and making beds. Professional maids or house cleaning service providers will charge by the hour, number of rooms or square footage of the home. For example, bi-weekly cleaning of a 900-square-foot, two-bedroom apartment with five rooms, costs $59-$124 . A 1,300 square-foot, single-story home with seven rooms runs $79-$150 . A 2,200 two-story, three-bedroom home with nine rooms averages $104-$180 . Additional tasks such as oven or refrigerator cleaning and dusting mini blinds can run an extra $20-$25.
Total cost for services: $118 per week X 52 Weeks = $6,136 per year.

Child Care- Homemakers provide full-time, live-in child care. This type of service from a professional provider would usually come with a host of perks including health insurance, paid vacation and sick days, federal holidays off, dental and vision coverage, and bonuses. The International Nanny Association’s 2011 survey found that nannies make $600 to $950 per week in gross wages, on average.
Total cost for services: $600 a week plus perks/benefits x 52 Weeks = $31,200 per year.

Driver – A private car service might seem like a high-end luxury to most, but the beneficiaries of a homemaker get this service on a daily basis. Companies like Red Cap, which provides personal drivers that use the client’s own car as the means of transportation, offer a glimpse into the cost of this homemaker task. An elite membership which includes 365 days of unlimited, round-trip service is $1,000 a year plus 33 cents – $2.03 per minute.
Total cost for services: $1,000 per year + [(estimated miles driven 8000 miles / 50 MPH) x 60 min/hr x $0.33 per minute] = $4,168 total per year.

Laundry Service – Clean clothes come at a cost when you have to pay for the service that most homemakers do for free. Professional laundry services charge by the pound. For instance, Susie’s Suds Home Laundry Service, Inc. in Texas charges 90 cents to $1.00 a pound to wash, dry, fold, hang and steam your clothes. Items that take longer to dry such as comforters, blankets, rugs and winter clothes are assessed at a price of $12-$15 each.
Total cost for services: $0.90 per pound x 4 pounds of clothes per day x 5 days per weeks x 52 weeks = $936 total per year.

Lawn Maintenance - Basic maintenance of the exterior property is a less common, but possible duty of a homemaker.This could include things such as mowing, debris removal, edging and trimming the lawn. These services cost about $30 a week on average.
Total cost for services: $30 per week x 52 weeks = $1,560 total per year.

The Bottom Line – Total for a year of all services is: $52,260 + $6,137 + $31,200 + $4,168 + $936 + $1,560 = $96,261 per year.

The daily work of a homemaker can sometimes be taken for granted by his or her family members. However, these services could earn a homemaker a considerable wage if he or she took those skills to the marketplace. Homemakers in general contribute a lot more to the home in addition to these tasks, and no amount of money can fill those needs.” (The article’s source is found here.)


I found that article to be a very interesting read.  Though a little flawed for some (my mother never drove 8,000 miles herself in the course of a year) and politically correct (referring to homemakers as both men and women), the ideas communicated are worth noting.  The industrious homemaking woman is of great value to her household.

In addition, a mother who educates her own children would be worth either a tutor or a teacher’s salary.  One who grows her own produce, raises animals, and sews clothing also adds to the family income.  As you can see, the article really just scratches the surface!

Stepping away from the monetary aspect of it reminds us of a homemaker’s greatest contributions, namely the tender love, Godly wisdom, and careful nurture she imparts to her husband and children (if the Lord has blessed her thus).  This is worth far more to the Kingdom of God than we could ever put a dollar amount on.  It makes one think, when considering the value of what we do.  What am I pouring my energy into?  What is really important?  What will last eternally?

Being a chef is of little value if we do not demonstrate hospitality and nourish souls.

Taxiing across town is a worthless effort if we do not drive others to Christ.

Washing clothes only helps to clean up the outward appearance; we must be about washing with the Word.

The bottom line is this:  Only God can place a real value on homemaking.  Proverbs 31 makes that infinitely clear.  A Christ-honoring homemaker who is industrious and is about the business of serving her King is worth far more than money can buy.  Her worth is far above rubies.  She is working to build Christ’s Kingdom!  When done unto the Lord, wiping noses, cleaning up spilled milk, and speaking wisdom into the lives of children is the kind of work that lasts forever and ever.  That is one thing the world will never understand, try as they might; you just can’t place a dollar value on something as noble and beautiful as homemaking.

“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.”
-Proverbs 31:10

Do you have anything to add?

 

Lauren is a thankful daughter, saved by the matchless grace of her Lord Jesus Christ. Blessed to have been educated at home, she now delights in serving her family as she strives to grow in godliness and continues learning to be a keeper at home.

Working in her family’s used homeschool book business provides her with plenty of opportunities for growth and sanctification. Lauren is an avid lover of homemaking, photography, the family economy, and good coffee.

You can find her over at A Corner Pillar, where she blogs about life, homemaking, and the goodness of the Lord.

Mrs. June Fuentes

June Fuentes is the happy wife to Steve and blessed homeschooling mother to eight beautiful children that they are raising for the Lord. She has a heart to see mothers all around the world grasp the vision of biblical motherhood and to see this noble role restored in the 21st century to the glory of God. June strongly believes that weak homes equate a weak nation and therefore blogs at A Wise Woman Builds Her Home to minister to Christian women on how to build up strong Christian homes. She would love to connect with you on Facebook and Twitter. She is also the author of the best seller True Christian Motherhood.

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There are so many beautiful things about homemaking . . . and right here is the perfect place for us to encourage one another in this beautiful calling! Below you can share the link to a post or article on your blog about homemaking, whether it be about cleaning, character, cooking, etc.

To share a link to your post about homemaking, you can use the Linky below . . . just share your link (make sure the link goes directly to your post), title, and image (it’s easy)!

Please link back here so others can join!

Emily Rose Brookshire

Emily Rose was home-educated and is a work-at-home-daughter. She finds joy in serving her family and is very blessed to be taught by her wonderful mother in biblical womanhood and artful homemaking. A few of her interests include hospitality, photography, graphic and web design, studying history and theology, and cultural reformation. Emily Rose and her sister have created a line of historical paper dolls based on Christian women from history, the Daughters of His Story Paper Dolls as well as The Family Treasure Coloring Book. In November 2011, the Brookshire ladies began the Clementine Pattern Co., where they create and sell embroidery patterns. Emily Rose blogs at Simply Vintagegirl.

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Valentine’s day is around the corner and six Christian bloggers are having a virtual party  to celebrate on February 7th so be sure to save the date!

 

 

The Hostesses and Topics

 

A Wise Woman Builds Her Home – Love of Hospitality

Like a Bubbling Brook – Loving the Body of Christ

Far Above Rubies – Loving Your Home

The Modest Mom – Loving Your Children

Raising Mighty Arrows – Loving Your Husband

Under the Golden Apple Tree – Homeschool Love

 

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You can join us and view details of the event by clicking HERE.

 Be sure to save the date!

Mrs. June Fuentes

June Fuentes is the happy wife to Steve and blessed homeschooling mother to eight beautiful children that they are raising for the Lord. She has a heart to see mothers all around the world grasp the vision of biblical motherhood and to see this noble role restored in the 21st century to the glory of God. June strongly believes that weak homes equate a weak nation and therefore blogs at A Wise Woman Builds Her Home to minister to Christian women on how to build up strong Christian homes. She would love to connect with you on Facebook and Twitter. She is also the author of the best seller True Christian Motherhood.

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Today we have a post by Jacqueline of Deep Roots at Home

Is it a fair statement to say that we cannot grow more Christlike if we don’t remain in the Word of God?

Starting January 2, I began a challenge to read the Bible in 90 days. Here is my schedule. I felt the leading to do this but soon realized I could be in over my head.

Instead of stopping all together when life throws more at me than I can handle, why not listen to the Bible? I can’t just give up and let the evil one win!

“So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.”      Romans 10:17 

I am not an iPod type of gal, y.e.t.! My adult children are trying to prompt me that way, but for now, I use streaming audio at Faith Comes By Hearing. They also offer both Old and New Testament (dramatized) for MP3 download in many languages.

So what does this have to do with cleaning?

While you listen, you can wash your stove and counters…

wash and fold laundry…

wash your cabinets…

wash the dishes or load the dishwasher…

mop the floors…

water your plants…

and wash out cabinets.

The list of (potentially quiet) things we do as moms and homemakers is endless: cleaning closets, dusting, cooking and baking, stripping and making beds, washing windows, putting away groceries, and don’t forget chauffeuring (use the CD player or iPod). We could never do all these things in one week, but broken down over many weeks, it becomes do-able.

O, to worship at the feet of the Savior right where our work means the most ~ in the home where we nurture and minister to those in our care. My desire is to be sweeter spirited, model my love for the Word to my family, and practice intentional diligence.

*****If things happen to keep us from completing our plans or if we have to stop for a time, don’t feel guilty or throw in the towel. We are under grace! Pick up and start again.******

It is still January. Would you consider coming alongside me in this B-90 challenge?

“And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through Him to God the Father..” Col 3: 17

Jacqueline

For 38 years now, I have been first a wife, but also a teacher of our children in the home. Now a new season is here, and with the blessing of my husband, I write DeepRootsAtHome as an encouragement to myself and others. (Titus 2: 3-5) What I share will be varied and practical…focused on being a good steward at home, of our time, and our relationships…but I also love to do things that bring beauty and order to our hectic lives and reflect God’s creativity. Oh, may we learn how important our jobs are as we become older women of God to speak into the younger woman! The habits of the home in one generation become the morals of society in the next. As William Ross Wallace said: “The hand that rocks the cradle, rules the world.” 10 May, 1996 Washington Times.

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No matter how you look at it, homemaking is not easy.

In many respects, it’s just plain hard.

While it also brings great joy and satisfaction, for many of us, the difficulty transcends the emotional challenges homemakers face.  It moves beyond balancing the many aspects of homemaking {and living them out well} and enters the realm of the physical.

All homemakers face challenges, but some of us are putting on a brave face, to cover a significant battle we must fight daily.  Some of us struggle just to keep our homes running.  Some of us feel a little bit broken.  And we usually don’t  let anyone in, or let anyone see,

because we don’t want to be viewed as whiners.

But not letting anyone in, and not letting anyone see is no way to live.  Let’s stop hiding and making excuses; let’s start naming our challenges, and meeting them head on!

This post will begin a series on homemaking – with a reasonable measure of success – while coping with physical challenges.  We’ll name these issues, and claim them as part of our expertly created bodies.  We’ll discuss coping tactics, and how to overcome daily struggles, a little at a time.  Even if you do not personally face an issue like this, I hope the series will offer perspective that will give insight into the life of a precious friend or family member.

Next up: What’s wrong with Jessica?

EDITED to add: This series is about overcoming physical difficulties.  Personally, I love being a homemaker, and want to make others who suffer from physical ailments feel encouraged and supported…and that they are not alone.

 

Jessica Heights

Jessica is a passionately Christian, blissfully wed, full-time homemaker and mother of four. She is the author and founder of Muthering Heights and Other Senseless Sensibility, in which she encourages women as they blossom as mothers, wives, and conduits of grace. She is also a co-host of Relevant.

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Quiet Times for Desperate Mothers

by ArabahJoy January 19, 2012

You’ve been there… you get up early to have quiet time, get your coffee ready, sit down and open your bible, savor the quiet for just a moment, and… the door opens and your child comes stumbling out, ready to start her day! This scenario happens to me…a lot. It’s not that I don’t want to [...]

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Homemaking Link-Up!

by Emily Rose Brookshire January 18, 2012

There are so many beautiful things about homemaking . . . and right here is the perfect place for us to encourage one another in this beautiful calling! Below you can share the link to a post or article on your blog about homemaking, whether it be about cleaning, character, cooking, etc. To share a [...]

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